Her Husband Kept Putting Off a Family Vacation—Then His High School Reunion Was Announced and He Wanted to Go Without Them
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When you are married, your family should be the most important thing in your life, but some people don’t act that way.
What would you do if your husband kept promising to schedule a family vacation, but he always had excuses on why it couldn’t happen? And, to make it worse, what if when his high school reunion came around, he was quick to say that he was going?
That is what was happening to the woman in this story, so now she is upset and suspicious about what is going on.
Personally, I think she has every reason to be upset about this and the husband is way out of line. Read through the full story below and see if you agree.
AIO my husband won’t fly for a family trip but will fly for his high school reunion.
I’m 41 F and my husband 39 M, have been going back and forth about going on a family trip with our son, 14, this summer.
Planning a vacation can be difficult.
Last year he promised us a family trip, but convinced me that we should buy new furniture for our home instead, which we did.
It cost us over $2,000 to replace a lot of furniture that was breaking down around the house. He then promised that we would go on a family trip next summer, which is this summer.
This would be a fun trip.
Earlier this year he asked me my top 3 options, but I told him that I would just love to go to the Dominican Republic. I’m Dominican-American (US born), and haven’t been able to visit in about 16 years.
Growing up, my family and I would visit every summer and every December for Christmas. It’s part of my culture and upbringing.
He always has a reason not to go.
Our son is 14 and I haven’t been able to take him because something else always takes priority. It’s very important to me for our son to meet part of my family that still lives there.
I expressed all this to my husband and he kept giving me the excuse that it’s too expensive. Once I told him I’ll pay for the trip, his new excuse was his concern about the TSA delays and flight cancellations that were occurring around March and April.
Well, they found something that they can agree upon.
Another reason he gave me was the war and bombing oversees in Iraq and Iran. He said he didn’t want to fly and put his family at risk or get stuck in another country.
So, I tried to be an understanding wife and validate his feelings, even though I felt he wasn’t considering mine. So, I gave him another option. We can go on a family trip to Virginia Beach. He seemed to agree.
Maybe he is just scared of flying.
I began my research of fun family activities we can do and looking into AirBnBs. He then began to tell me that he didn’t want to fly, that he was still concerned with TSA delays and flight cancellations.
Virginia Beach began to seem further and further away. He then convinced me that since we’re not going to fly anywhere we can plan family outings every weekend during the summer, to make up on not going on a family trip.
She just wants to do something with the family. It doesn’t matter what at this point.
I once again settled and agreed. Now this is the part that I’m wondering if I’m overreacting and just letting my emotions cloud my reasoning.
About 2 weeks ago, my husband told me that his senior class finally set a date and confirmed their 20 year high school reunion.
Apparently he can fly for something he wants to do.
He is from Miami, Florida. We live in NYC. And yea you guessed it he’ll be taking a flight to get there. The first two weeks, I asked if we can join him because I thought two birds with one stone.
He can go to his high school reunion and we can go on a family trip. His class is only meeting up for one night and the rest of the trip we can spend quality family time.
He is acting very suspicious.
He said no, that he’s only going for the reunion. I said ok, but through other conversations, I noticed he was planning a 4 day trip.
I confronted him about it and expressed everything that was bothering me and I felt was manipulative about the situation. He said he’s only going because his high school best friend asked him to go.
She has every reason to be upset.
I responded, so his high school best friend is more important than the family trip promises he keeps making since last year.
I told him that his concern about not wanting to fly is completely fake now, because if he’s willing to fly to Miami he can definitely fly to go somewhere for a family trip.
This doesn’t even make sense.
He then said that he didn’t want to bring us around some of his family members because they are hypocrites and fake.
I’ve met his mother and siblings and we get along just fine. He was talking about his aunts and uncles. I told him that his estranged relationship with his aunts and uncles has nothing to do with us going with him to Miami.
She should definitely go.
It’s not like we are planning to meet up with them. I told him that it looks like he just wants a solo trip and wants to act like he is a single man.
He then began to ask me to join him on the trip to Miami. But now I refuse to go, because I feel that the only reason he asked me is because of this recent argument. AIO please let me know.
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He is definitely acting oddly and something is going on. She has every reason to be upset about this.
Let’s see what the people in the comments have to say about it.
This commenter has an important question.
Time for a trip with just her and their son.
Her husband always has an excuse, but they aren’t valid.
If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a mom who can’t figure out why her babysitter quit after what she thought was a routine question.
Her husband really does seem selfish, though.
This person says to just go to the Dominican Republic on her own, though.
Something suspicious is going on here, and she needs to find out what. Even if he isn’t doing anything wrong, he is still putting other things ahead of his family, and that isn’t right.
To answer her question, no, she is not overreacting.
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