Some people are very sweet, but don’t seem to have any concept of boundaries, which can make life uncomfortable.

That was the case in this story, where an old lady neighbor befriended her, and she had no real concept of privacy or boundaries.

Now, this young lady is tired of having her around all the time, but she doesn’t want to hurt her feelings.

Unfortunately, I think she is going to have to have an uncomfortable conversation if she wants the lady to back off. Read through the full details below and see what you think she should do.

How do I get rid of a annoying neighbor nicely

I know this might sound harsh but my neighbour won’t leave me alone and i am getting fed up of it.

This is an unusual living situation, but it works for her.

A bit of back story is after leaving a bad relationship, I moved into a block of flats for 55 plus, I had to get special permission from the council to buy this flat and live there.

Inside this block of flats there are 3 other occupants, all above the age of 60. The flats are safe due to needing to get through 2 metal doors with a key fob, then my own front door, which makes it safer than a house for me personally, and also because it’s not on Google maps.

Sometimes, older people love to chat.

There it no issue with my ex finding me, and its complicated to get too. The others occupants do love to chat when we catch each other (which I don’t mind) but this one neighbour kind of takes it to the extreme.

Bit of back story about her is she is 63 years old, does not work, has family that often come around and see her, she gets out and is mobile.

This is the list of things she does that annoy me the most

Clearly, this lady is lonely.

She comes up to my flat every day for a cup of tea as soon as I get home from work and stays for an hour, sometimes longer.

She waits for me every morning outside (smoking) before I go to work for a chat and she is there when I get back from work waiting for me, she will then proceed to follow me up to my flat and walk in after me.

Wow, she should not allow her to smoke inside.

She smokes inside my flat(I don’t do this EVER) I DONT EVEN SMOKE

When my family and friends come around she makes it her business to come up and speak to us

I often go for weekends away with my friends and she will often ask when am I taking her away or where was her invite?

Yikes, this is awkward.

I though she was joking until she recently told me she thinks its unfair im leaving her all the time and I was flabbergasted.

She gets annoyed if any of the other neighbours come into my flat and will send texts asking me to be quite or to keep the noise down.

When in reality, all I am doing it helping my neighbour do her meter readings or the odd job (again I don’t mind as they take a few mins).

It has gone from sweet to annoying.

Several times she has woken me up at 11pm on a weekday (I had to be up at 6am for work) telling me it’s an emergency and I need to take her somewhere.

Last time it was the pharmacy due to a water infection ( she made out she was going to the hospital as she directed me because I am still getting use to the area as I have never lived there before) sometimes it’s because she can hear shouting outside etc.

Why does she keep talking to this lady?

She will complain if I bring home a McDonald for myself and didn’t ask her if she wanted one or if I go out for food with my friends and don’t invite her. If I am on the phone and she ‘pops up,’ she tells me to end it as she needs to speak to me.

She has often come up to my flat when I am showering, fake tanning or getting ready to go out etc, she will just make herself at home and when I have asked her to leave in the past she will complain calling me rude and proceeds to talk bad about me to the other neighbours (I think).

This is absolutely unacceptable.

I do her a favour every night at 9pm. I stand outside while she has a smoke because she does not like being on her own in the dark.

The thing that is the cherry on top of the cake is I have always left my spare key under my matt as an emergency. I only found out she has been using it to go in and out of my flat to go to the toilet as her bathroom is currently being redone.

It is beyond time to have that awkward conversation.

This was NOT agreed upon or discussed and I only found out due to my neighbour who showed me on her front door camera, she has only recently got this and we don’t know if she has been popping in and out as she pleases since I’ve moved in.

My key is now missing and is on her keychain. I know I am going to have to change my locks, but how can I nicely tell her to back the heck off, I’m sick of having zero privacy, I can’t clean, have a meal or relax without her there constantly watching me.

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She can’t keep putting up with this.

I live above her so she can hear me walking around, when my TV is on etc, I feel like I am being watched all the time and its really unsettling.

I don’t want to hurt this women’s feelings as she is a lovely lady, but I am thinking of selling and leaving because of her.

The difficult reality is that she is going to have to have a very awkward conversation. The conversation should begin with demanding her key back.

Read on to see what the people in the comments recommend as well.

Well, this is one option.

Standing up for yourself can be hard.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a person who calls on dozens of whirlygigs to combat the neighbor’s complaints about the fence.

This commenter says she needs to just tell her to stop.

She needs to suck it up and cut this lady off. The neighbor is taking advantage of her, and that just isn’t right.

Unfortunately, this is going to be an uncomfortable conversation, but sometimes you have to have those in life.