It’s a source of endless frustration living in a country where collectively, the resources (and then some) exist to simply give everyone the medical care they need, yet individually most of us have to scrap and pinch and do without.

It leads to all kinds of stresses that in the long run are totally unnecessary, and it certainly doesn’t help when people involved aren’t trying very hard, like in this story.

One woman tried to do help out her father-in-law, but it really backfired.

Let’s read the whole story.

AITA for asking that my medical equipment be returned to me?

7 months ago my father in law was in the hospital because of a health problem.

When he came back home he was not very mobile.

He was discharged without any medical equipment and for an unknown reason his physical therapist only showed up once and never again.

So, she did was she thought was right.

I decided I could temporarily let him borrow some of the medical equipment I had since I had used it for my own parent.

The plan was that it was for a limited time while he and his adult children settled things

He started seeing several specialists but would not request things he needs or do other treatments.

His adult children would also not bother to research places where they could borrow for free, rent or buy the equipment.

Everyone that said they cared about him thought words and food was enough.

And now a temporary solution is solidifying itself as permanent.

I searched online and found a place where my father in law or his adult children could borrow one for free but it was about a 25 mile drive.

I told my boyfriend about it but he didn’t want to do the drive or try to find some other solutions on his own.

Didn’t even mention to his siblings about splitting the cost because he refuses to talk to them after an argument related to his care.

We argued constantly about it but I just got labeled the bad person for wanting it back.

Their reason was because I didn’t need it but he did. That I was being too selfish.

But clearly you MAY need it again, and then what?

Taking care of a parent with health problems involves more than just asking if they took their medications or driving them to their appointment.

His children should educate themselves on his illnesses and put more effort into making his life easier if they care so much.

We have other issues (relationship problems) and I think it’s part of the reason why my partner acts like his decision matters more about not wanting to give it back.

Sometimes doing something nice can really backfire.

Let’s see what the comments on Reddit have to say:

What else can you do at this point?

Make sure they know the extent of what’s happening.

This is a huge red flag.

Seriously, that’s such a short commute.

Do the good deed. Just also know where to draw the line.

If you thought that was an interesting story, check this one out about a man who created a points system for his inheritance, and a family friend ends up getting almost all of it.