Managing relationships is not easy.

What would you do if two very important people in your life needed you on the same day?

This is the predicament this woman found herself in when her best friend set her wedding date to the same day her niece is celebrating getting accepted into her dream college.

She turned to the internet to make sure that she’s not in the wrong for the decision she made.

Let’s read the whole story and see what happened.

AITAH for choosing to go home to celebrate my nieces college acceptance instead of going to my best friends wedding?

I (42f) am in a predicament.

My (39f) best friend, who we’ll call Tracy, is getting married soon (again, 4th time) and had asked me to be her maid of honor a week after she got proposed to by her boyfriend (now fiancé) of 6 years.

I of course excepted and have been helping her plan and organize this wedding for months.

I even helped pay for her wedding dress as an early wedding gift.

But the wedding date changed.

The problem is some things happened and long story short, the wedding got pushed back a few weeks and now is going to be the day after my niece’s surprise party for being excepted into her dream college.

I have been close to my niece (we’ll call her Amy) since she was born but became even closer with her after my sister passed when she was 7.

Sadly me and my husband ended up moving when he got a job offer in Texas, when she was 10 (while she and the rest of my family lives in Maine).

We stayed close though and she FaceTimes me every night to tell me about her day and what she’s been up to.

It’s a big moment in Amy’s life.

When she got excepted into her dream college I was extremely proud.

She’s been working so hard to get in and of course my whole family is extremely proud of her hard work.

So her father decided to throw her a surprise party to congratulate her for her hard work and to show her how proud we all are of her.

Things were planned, but the plans had to change, and she made her decision.

Her father, James, contacted me knowing that Tracy’s wedding was coming up and set a date so that I’d be able to be there to congratulate Amy in person without interfering with Tracy’s upcoming wedding.

After Tracy’s wedding got pushed back I made the hard decision to go to my niece’s party.

I have been contemplating this for a week now and I told Tracy last night of my decision.

She did not take it well.

Tracy was hurt.

She had apparently thought that I would have decided to go to her wedding as it’s more important.

I tried to tell her of my reasons, one: the plane tickets are already paid for and that I hadn’t paid for James, two: my niece has worked really hard to get into that college and I want to be there to tell her how proud I am of her.

Tracy thinks I’m an ******* because I could just FaceTime her during the party and just tell her how proud I am over FaceTime and that I could always pay James back the money for the plane tickets.

But she is still not sure.

This is her big day and I’m her best friend and maid of honor and I’m apparently going to ruin her big day if I’m not there.

I did feel bad but I stuck with my decision.

I woke up this morning to some messages from mutual friends that told me I’m an ******* because my niece’s party is less important than Tracy’s wedding.

So AITAH?

It’s her personal decision and people shouldn’t shame her for it.

But let’s see what Reddit has to say about this.

This reader is confused.

The grammar police are here, we’re safe.

This commenter shares their thoughts.

Exactly.

This person has a different take.

Another reader chimes in.

Tracy should have discussed the date with her if she needed her at her wedding this much.

It’s a no-win situation.

If you liked that story, read this one about grandparents who set up a college fund for their grandkid because his parents won’t, but then his parents want to use the money to cover sibling’s medical expenses.