There are certain things that you shouldn’t really do if you want to keep your relationship strong.

One of those things is airing your grievances with your partner in front of others.

For one thing, these things are private within couples – no one is perfect, and everyone has things they need to work on – so to bring these up in front of friends and family is a low blow.

But sometimes, the situation is so desperate that you have to speak up right away, no matter who is present.

That was exactly the case for the woman in this story, who felt she had no choice but to call out her boyfriend.

Read on to find out why.

AITA for chastising my boyfriend in front of our friends?

I (20, female) have been dating “Ted” (22, male) for about a year. I’m close friends with his whole friend group (all in their early 20s).

His friends and I celebrated Eid together today, and Ted was driving us back to his house.

Three of his friends were in the backseat, and I saw Ted twist around to look at something on someone’s phone WHILE ON THE HIGHWAY.

I immediately snapped at him to turn around and put his seat belt on.

Yikes! Let’s see how Ted reacted to his girlfriend’s warranted instruction.

He told me “calm down, it’s not that big of a deal” and I said something like “don’t tell me to calm down when you’re being really stupid right now”.

Our friends laughed a bit, he got quiet and put his seat belt on and the conversation continued like nothing had happened – except that Ted was basically sulking for the rest of the drive.

After the drive he asked if we could talk and told me that I “*******” at him in front of his friends. He knows I HATE that word.

I told him not to say that and he said not to change the subject. His general point is that I nagged him and made both of us look lame in front of our friends.

Read on to find out how she responded.

I told him our friends don’t care about that and he was literally risking his life. He said I was still being overly mean about it, I don’t think I was.

I called him stupid for driving with no seat belt and also not looking at the road and his response was to say I was ******** at him.

The hangout finished a couple hours ago and he’s still in a mood, I asked one of the girls we were driving back with if she thought I was being too mean and she said “you kinda were, but it’s a life or death thing so I think it’s warranted.”

That sanity check was inconclusive. Was I in the wrong here?

AITA?

Firstly, the language he is using to describe his girlfriend’s understandable concern is completely not okay.

As is turning around while driving to look at a phone in the back seat.

He wasn’t only putting his own life in danger, he was risking everyone else’s too – and no one should be okay with that.

Let’s see what the Reddit community made of that.

This person agreed there was no way the girlfriend was in the wrong here.

While others thought her tone was warranted.

Meanwhile, this Redditor pointed out just how serious this could have been.

The fact that he put himself, his girlfriend and three of his friends in danger was not okay at all.

But then to make out that his girlfriend was in the wrong for calling him out?

This guy needs to learn to take responsibility.

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