Having a newborn baby in the house is a lot of work for everyone, but the mother also has to deal with changing hormones, which makes it even harder.

What would you do if your wife recently had a baby, and it was making her very sensitive and angry with everything that you do, even though you are doing your best to help?

That is the situation that the husband in this story is in, and while he is doing all that he can to please his wife, nothing is working, so he doesn’t know what to do.

He really does seem to be doing everything right, so hopefully he can just wait it out until her hormones return to normal. Read through all the details below and see what you think he should do.

AITAH for asking to chill for 10 minutes when my postpartum wife was hungry?

First, some background. We had a baby one week ago today.

We made some agreements before the birth, which were basically all her idea and I went along with them to keep the peace.

She is taking her Maternity leave now and when it runs out, I will take my leave next. This will give us more time at home with the baby.

It is great that he is contributing so much.

During this period I am taking care of our 4 year old 100% of the time. I’m making his meals, doing bath time, bringing him to summer camp, etc.

I don’t mind this as I was the primary care for him before too, because my job allows more time at home too.

On top of that, I’m taking care of all household chores like laundry, dishes, cooking etc.

Whenever a baby diaper needs changed, I’m on it too, I’m pitching in as much as I can with the baby as well.

When you are working from home, you are still working and need to be focused on your job.

Honestly, I feel like I am doing a lot and none of it bothers me, I’m not complaining, I’m in dad mode.

I spent fathers day giving her a break to sleep and taking the kids out for groceries and errands.

I work from home, and here lies the biggest issue.

I feel as if my wife has never really respected my work time as actual work time, and I am constantly asked to do things for her or around the house.

She does not respect his work.

I try to accommodate as much as I can too because I do have some freedom with my day, I’m not in meetings all day.

When she was working and I was too, I was always expected to drop whatever I was doing for everything, like picking up our sick kid from school or staying home with him all day because he has the day off.

In her eyes, I’m already home so I am the one that has to do it.

Naturally, 4 year olds are a lot of work and need a lot of attention, so my work always suffers these days, but again, dad mode and I push through.

This would be very frustrating.

One of our frequent arguments we have is about her micromanaging me.

I’m exhausted by it. I can’t remember the last time I did something right without being told to do it another way or do something else.

I hold the baby wrong, I picked the wrong shoes for my kid to wear to school, I should be driving in the other lane, I can’t even park the car in the garage correctly in her eyes.

God forbid I don’t immediately jump up in excitement to do whatever task she is currently demanding I do.

He could end up getting fired if he doesn’t make work a priority.

This brings us to this morning.

When getting my kid ready for his day, I made oatmeal for everyone. He ate and I gave a bowl to my wife, and I brought him to camp.

After I got home, I got straight to work, I was already running behind. I ended up working on my laptop in my car for a while in front of our house because I had to jump on a call and couldn’t make them wait another 5 minutes to set up in the house.

It is nice to relax with your wife and newborn.

When that wrapped up, about 2 hours have passed since she had her oatmeal.

I went upstairs to see how she and the baby are doing and laid next to them to chill and touch the baby.

I’m not on break or lunch or anything, I just had about 20 min between stuff and wanted to hangout for a bit with them, babies are cute.

Wow, she is very demanding.

She asked if I can make her an omelette because she wants protein.

I said “Sure, can I just chill for 10 minutes with you guys?”

She nodded and I was just kind of touching the baby and seeing her and within 2 minutes she asked in an angry voice “can you make it now?”

So, I got up, a bit frustrated and made the omelette.

Will anything make her happy?

This turned into a big fight.

I decided to try to give her some grace, I know she’s going through a lot, she just had a baby. I calmed down, didn’t say anything and made a bomb omelette with spinach and ham and cheese.

When I brought it to her, she got mad and said she doesn’t want it anymore and told me to throw it out.

I brought it back downstairs, didn’t say a word and did the dishes, saved the omelette and went back to work.

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I saw this as a battle not worth fighting right now.

This is not a fight he can win, sadly.

An hour later she came down and I offered her the food again, since I saved it for her.

She told me I was being a jerk, she made her own food and told me I never have to make her food again because “I obviously didn’t want to.”

I tried to talk about what happened and it just turned into a discussion about how “I’m always the victim” and “I’m to sensitive.”

AITAH?

She is clearly overly sensitive and emotional, which is somewhat understandable. That being said, her hormones and fatigue are not an excuse for mistreating him.

Let’s see what the people in the comments on Reddit have to say about the situation that this couple is in.

His wife does have a number of issues that aren’t getting better, according to this commenter.

Having another child isn’t going to fix her attitude.

I think this commenter sums it up nicely.

This commenter says that he shouldn’t have to live like this.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about an uncle who is surprised to find his niece’s birthday party all about him after one unkind comment.

When did her bad attitude begin?

She may need therapy or medication to help fix this issue. There is no doubt that having a baby is difficult, but it doesn’t mean that you can treat your husband like this.

In addition, this seems to be an ongoing issue, even from before the baby was born. Hopefully, this couple can work things out. It will take work, but they can do it. His wife has to be willing to try, though.