When I was younger and I’d go out of town with my friends, we were total dirtbags.

And I mean that in a loving way!

We tried to do everything as cheaply as possible, and that meant crashing with people we knew, eating food on a budget, the works!

But as I’ve gotten older, I like to treat myself a little bit…

And there’s no way I’m sleeping under someone’s kitchen table when I go out of town anymore.

In today’s story, a woman explained why one person in her friend group is causing chaos in regard to their travel plans because she doesn’t have as much money as everyone else.

Let’s take a look at what’s going on.

AITA for not wanting to travel cheaply again?

“I want an unbiased opinion on something that’s causing a lot of drama in my friend group at the moment.

We’re a group of 7 ladies who have known each other since college.

For the last few years, we take a yearly trip together. It requires a lot of planning as we all have family and work constraint and we live in different states.

We have always managed to meet and have a good time. Some background: 6 of us have done well financially and while not rich, we’re comfortable.

But…

1 of the group is freelance and struggles financially, I’ll call her Amy.

We have reached a stage in our life where we want to actually treat ourselves to more upscale accommodation and activities. Up until now, we’ve always tried to match Amy’s budget. We’ve all been broke at some point and know it’s tough out there.

This doesn’t sound like much fun…

This has made us end up in cramped accommodations and avoid activities deemed too pricey.

In the past couple of years, we have suggested doing more “luxurious” city break and have offered to cover Amy for the difference.

If divided between the 6 of us, it’s definitely affordable. She can pay what she can afford and we’ll top up the rest. Amy has always declined.

This is understandable…

She is very independent and don’t want to be seen as the person who takes advantage of her friends.

Again, this is our suggestion, not hers. We are not trying to make her feel bad but we want to have a more pleasant vacation, especially since we so rarely see each other.

She wants to treat herself a little bit.

We are planning our trip for 2027 and we have agreed to the city. Amy started right away sending links for cheap accommodation and activities. This time I put my foot down, and said to Amy that we don’t want to do that anymore.

We understand she needs to be careful with money and this is why we want to cover her. We don’t want to spend another trip on top of each other and not being able to do things that cost more money.

She is very upset and said that we are punishing her for not earning a lot and honestly, I don’t see how? We are not excluding her, we want her there but we’re done traveling as if we were broke college kids.

Now Amy says she won’t come because she doesn’t want to be “our charity case”.

3 of the girls agree with me that enough is enough and the other 2 say we should just suck it up and what matters is to be together.

Are we really the jerks here?”

Reddit users shared their thoughts.

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Another individual weighed in.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a woman who is annoyed that her brother is making their mom’s international trip all about how broke he is.

And this person spoke up.

Yeah, it doesn’t sound like this is gonna work out, does it?

It’s sad, but if their friend can’t do it, she can’t do it.

It’s as simple as that!

Maybe it’s time for this friend group to stop taking a big trip together every year.