Friendships change when children enter the picture, especially when every visit becomes a battle over boundaries.

This man enjoys his friend’s company, but her four-year-old cries until she gets whatever she wants.

He has stayed quiet because parenting is not his role, yet the tantrums now affect him directly.

See how this cranky one played out.

WIBTA if I tell my friend I don’t like being around her kid

I (32M) have a female friend (29F) that has a kid.

I am at the point where I want to tell her to not bring her kid around me.

This will be difficult because the kid has grown really fond of me.

The child is four years old, but I don’t like how she’s allowed to behave. She is still breastfeeding at that age, and she isn’t properly potty trained.

This man gets annoyed by how his friend’s daughter behaves.

To clarify, she can sometimes use the bathroom on her own, but other times she just soils herself.

She doesn’t have any mental challenges.

On top of that, she has a cellphone that she’s glued to constantly.

All of this annoys me, but since she’s not my child, I don’t comment. I mind my own business.

The little girl cries hysterically when she doesn’t get what she wants.

The bigger problem is that this child cannot take no for an answer.

When she’s with her mother, she bullies her by crying hysterically until her mom gives in to whatever she wants.

You might wonder how this affects me.

Well, the child often cries hysterically for my laptop or smartwatch.

I’m not rich, and I can’t afford for a kid to break my things.

So now, he’s thinking about telling her not to bring her kid around him.

Once, her mom left her with me briefly while she went to grab something from the car.

During that short time, the child reached for my prescription glasses.

When I refused to give them to her, she threw such a hysterical tantrum. The cries were so loud and gut wrenching that people thought I had spanked her.

Will I be the jerk if I tell my friend I do not like being around her kid?

Would he be rude to be honest with his friend, or should he keep his thoughts to himself?

Let’s find out what others have to say about this on Reddit.

This person gives their honest opinion.

Here’s some kind and helpful advice.

Children reflect their parents, says this person.

Here’s a valid point from this user.

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Finally, short and simple.

This man can protect his possessions and stop hosting the child, but saying he dislikes her would be unnecessarily hurtful.

A better conversation would focus on supervision, specific behaviors, and child-free plans instead of criticizing the girl.

The four-year-old wants his smartwatch, and he is considering uninstalling the entire playdate.