Living at home during college can make family expectations messy.

This student followed the rent-free agreement while working and saving for university.

Now her stepfather wants more jobs, medical payments, and grocery money.

The family rules keep changing.

Read on for the full story.

AITA For not wanting to pay for my own food

I (18F) live with my mom (40F) and stepdad (36M) while attending community college.

I originally planned to go out of state for university.

But my parents changed their mind and refused to co-sign loans, and my dad could not.

So I missed deadlines and had to attend the local community college for two years.

This young woman worked two jobs in the summer.

The family rule has always been that if I am in school and trying, I do not pay rent.

I just cover my own gas, clothes, and fun expenses.

I worked two jobs this summer.

I quit the first, because they wanted me to skip classes to work.

She then got a flexible job that pays her well.

After a month of job hunting, I got a flexible job that pays above minimum wage.

But my stepdad insists I get a second job because he worked two jobs in school.

We are studying very different things.

He dropped out of an electrician program, while I am pre-law and working on a business degree.

I do not have a car payment, debt, or major expenses, and my family is financially stable.

So there is no practical reason for me to work two jobs besides teaching me responsibility.

She started having issues with her mom and stepdad.

This has spilled over into other things.

For my 18th birthday, all I wanted was room décor instead of dorm items since I could not go to a dorm.

My mom told me to buy it myself because I am an adult.

She only got me new sheets after I reminded her it was supposed to be a gift.

I was very grateful, as I had been asking for years for new sheets.

Her stepdad said her health conditions were fake.

I am in physical therapy for scoliosis.

They initially agreed to cover my copays, but I have received no reimbursement.

And my stepdad claims my diagnoses such as scoliosis, bee allergy, and autism are fake.

He also thinks I should start paying for things my grandma has always covered, like hair appointments and shoes.

My grandma said absolutely not when I told her he wanted me to cover it.

When I asked my grandma for shoes before I started my job, since mine were falling apart, I was called an irresponsible brat.

They also said they’re done buying her special food and she should pay for her own groceries.

The biggest argument is food.

I am a picky eater, partly due to texture issues and an eating disorder. My parents know this.

But one night, I did not eat dinner because I was not hungry.

They told me they were done buying special food for me and I should start paying for my own groceries since I have a job.

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This felt harsh since it would not hurt them financially, and I am saving for university, which costs sixteen thousand a year.

She tried talking to her mom, but she was dismissed and insulted.

I also believe that they would eat the food that I buy, as anytime I get myself food, it always seems to go missing.

When I brought it up with my mom, she doubled down and said I am too picky and it is not unreasonable.

I cannot tell if I am being selfish or if this is genuinely unfair.

AITA for thinking my parents are being unreasonable?

Let’s find out what others have to say about this.

This user gives their honest opinion.

It’s time to plan your escape, says this one.

This person shares some useful suggestions.

Here’s another valid point.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a daughter who feels hoodwinked after finding out the sick father she’s been supporting has plenty of money of his own.

Finally, here’s some straightforward advice.

This student was already working and covering personal expenses when her parents suddenly demanded that she purchase her own groceries too.

Commenters agreed the arrangement felt unfair, especially because her family kept changing rules while dismissing her medical needs.