There are so many people out there who learn something valuable about a romantic partner in a key moment but choose to shrug it off.

But someone wise once said that when people show you who you are, you should believe them.

OP here is in the process of buying her deceased mother’s house and has gone back and forth on wanting to put her future husband on the deed.

Though he resisted at first they eventually agreed that was the best course of action, and asked that the paperwork be drawn up to make it official.

I F, 34 have been with my fiance M, 37 for 3 years. Getting married before the end of this year and recently moved in the house that I inherited from my mom. The house is in my name and it took a lot of talking and convincing from him to have his name on the title as well.

Now honestly part of me doesn’t think this is a good idea, at least not right now maybe after marriage? But anyway, I’ve decided to go ahead and put his name on the title so he could go ahead and start contributing towards mortgage more and light my burden a little bit.

We’ve made appointments, decided on which form of ownership we were basing this on.

When she prepared to sign the documents, though, he handed her not one, not two, but three empty pens as a prank.

when it was time for me to sign the deed, My fiance stopped me and gave me a pen saying this pen was his “lucky” pen and told me to use it to sign the deed. I took it and tried to sign but turned out it was empty.

He was like “oh I must’ve forgotten” while laughing and then pulled out his “other lucky pen”. I took it, tried to sign and that one too was empty. Honestly, seeing how he was laughing I figured he was messing with me but he swore he wasn’t and pulled out ANOTHER one of his lucky pens.

I tried that one too and it was empty. my fiance started cackling and I felt humiliated especially with how the gentleman next to him was staring.

OP got angry and stopped the signing, saying it wasn’t the time for pranks and she wasn’t sure she wanted him on the deed at all anymore.

I got pissed and asked him what that was about and he said it was a prank. I asked “really? Did you really think this was a time for pranks?” He was like “it’s alright you can use “a real pen” now”. I pushed the paper away and said “you know what? Never mind because I no longer want you on the deed”.

He lost it completely saying we had a deal and I can’t back out of it just like that, and that it was a stupid joke that I took too seriously. We had an argument and I refused to sign the deed at least not then and there.

Now he’s upset and giving her the silent treatment, and she’s wondering if maybe she didn’t overreact in the moment.

At home he blew up again saying I was the one who “delayed the process” and that he already gave me a real pen and all I had to do was sign the “damn paper” and get it over with.

He accused me of looking for an excuse not to have him on the deed and started the silent treatment saying there’s nothing to say til those papers are signed.

Did I really take this too seriously?

I’m sure Reddit is going to set her straight one way or another!

The top comment says there are too many red flags to count, and says OP would do well to not go back on her instinct.

And public humiliation is nothing to brush off.

This comment is an anecdote that should be taken as a warning.

They think the whole move was passive-aggressive…

While this commenter says it was really more aggressive aggressive.

This guy definitely isn’t ready for marriage, right?

I think some time should be taken before signing anything at all, at the very least.