She Refuses to Share Any of Her Mother’s Art With Her Family. Is She Wrong?
by Matthew Gilligan
Here we go again…
It’s another story from Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole?” page that revolves around things that were left behind to loved ones after someone passed away.
And this woman wants to know if she’s wrong for not sharing any of her late mother’s art with her family.
Take a look at her story and see what you think.
AITA for refusing to share a single piece of my mom’s art?
“My parents got married straight out of high school, had me (25f) right away and then split up when I was 3. But they stayed close friends til the day my mother d**d. My dad remarried Ana when I was 7, she had a daughter Eve (22f). Then they had our brother Jake (16M) together.
Jake was really sick when he was a toddler so our parents spent a lot of time at the hospital with him and I spent a lot of time at my moms house. Eve’s dad worked weird hours so my mom was more than happy to take Eve too most of the time. She loved hanging out with kids.
My mom was a talented and passionate artist and she was determined to foster a love of art in us. And she did for both of us but Eve is far more talented than I am and her & my mom bonded over their shared love of painting.
My mother passed away suddenly this January. I was always extremely close with her and I was & still am completely devastated. I still can’t accept that she’s gone forever… I miss her so so much. In late April, I finally got up the spirit to start organizing her things.
Eve approached me after I mentioned that I was going to my mothers home to sort through some stuff and she asked me if she could look through my moms paintings and have a few as a keepsakes because my mother was such an inspiration for her.
I don’t want to & I refused. Not the paintings. I’m willing to give her clothes, jewelry, furniture, almost anything but the paintings and journals are closest things I have left to my mom. There’s pieces of her soul in there, it’s not just stuff. They’re the most personal items she left and I don’t want to let a single one go.
Eve got really upset and said she didn’t care about any of the other things either and she didn’t think she was asking for that much. She said my mother was an important person in her life and that they had a strong relationship. Eve believes that if my mother would’ve left her something if she had the opportunity to decide.
I still said no and Eve went to her mom to complain and now my immediate family is torn on the issue and arguing when we see each other. My dad understands but thinks I can give up one or two. And that I might change my mind in a couple years once the pain isn’t so fresh and I do think that could’ve happened before but Eve and Ana are pushing me so hard on it and being passive aggressive towards me and I feel completely different about them now. We all used to be close.
I understand she wasn’t a stranger to my mom but that’s just not enough to me. I think my own grief is bigger and to ask me for such a personal thing so soon after her death was insensitive. And I’m ever more upset that they don’t even see the irony of Eve sending her own living mother after me for my d**d moms stuff.
My boyfriend wants me to just give her one and repair my family so I stop tormenting myself but I think I want to stand my ground here so AITA?”
Now check out what people said on Reddit about this.
This person said she’s NTA and that this is her choice.
Another reader offered up a suggestion about what she might want to say.
And this individual said she should share things when SHE feels like it if that time should come.