Bartenders are like therapists for people who don’t really feel like going to therapy.

They listen to the problems of customers and they also have to try not to offend people about their ages when it comes to I.D.’ing them.

A bartender named Sam posted a video on TikTok and said to viewers, “Tell me wtf u would do in this situation.”

In the video, Sam said, “Ok let’s say that an older woman and a young woman, call them a mother and daughter, come up to your bar…and order a drink. So you ask the daughter for her ID and like clockwork, the mom says, ‘Oh, you don’t want my ID?”

Hmmm…

Sam then talked about the different options she has in this kind of situation. She said, “Option one: you go ‘oh yeah, give me your ID. Option two: you ask for both IDs to begin with so that you can just avoid this whole interaction, even though again…I have eyes and I can see you’re of age.”

And she continued, “Option three: they say ‘you don’t want to see my ID,’” to which Sam sarcastically rebuts, “Do you wanna show me your ID? Hope they laugh instead of getting offended.”

She also talked about how some customers who are clearly old enough to drink get offended when she DOESN’T ask for their I.D.

Sam said, “I’m not saying you don’t look young. I’m saying you don’t look like a teenager. You’re an adult.”

I guess you just can’t win either way…

Take a look at what she had to say.

@sam_d0ll

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Here’s how people responded.

This viewer told a pretty funny bartending story.

Another person shared what they would have said.

And this individual never wants to be I.D.’d ever again.

The lesson to learn?

Just age gracefully.