What are you supposed to do if your wife gives birth…and you’re not allowed to be in the room with her when it all goes down?

That’s a tricky one!

And the guy who wrote this story on Reddit wants to know if he was a jerk for going home after he was banned from the big event.

Was he an *******?

Check out his story and see what you think.

AITA for going home when my wife didn’t let me into the delivery room?

“My (M28) wife (F29) gave birth a few days ago.

We had what I believe to be a fairly standard pregnancy and I did my best to take care of things and make it easy for her. I took her to the hospital when she was due and her sister and mother met us there.

There was an issue…

The problem started when she was taken to the delivery room. She asked the nurse that only her mother and sister (F27) be allowed in the delivery and then told me that she wanted me to wait until “I’ve delivered and calmed down” before letting me into the room.

I was kind of shocked and didn’t want to make a scene so I just said OK and sat down in the waiting room.

We had not really discussed the plan for the hospital and I had no reason to think I wouldn’t be there when my son was born.

I texted her sister if she knew my wife was going to do this? She said no. I told her to ask if my wife was concerned about something because I don’t consider myself someone who would have made a fuss or made things more difficult for her.

He got a weird response.

She texted back after a while saying that my wife “just doesn’t want you to see her like this” and then added that she didn’t agree with my wife and tried to convince her but ultimately it was her choice and I should respect it.

He decided to bail.

I sat in the waiting room for 6 hours getting minimal updates as the labor was fairly slow, and then I decided that there was no point so I texted her sister that I was going home, I’d meet my son when they brought him home and handle the birth certificate stuff the next day.

They came home about 9 hours later and I was finally able to meet my son. When my wife’s mother and sister left she got very angry at me for leaving her at the hospital. I was angry too but I told her that we can talk about this in a few days because she’s just given birth.

She wouldn’t drop the subject so I finally told her that she excluded me from the birth of my son for no reason, I didn’t see the need to hang around a hospital waiting room for hours doing nothing, and that even her own sister thinks what she did was wrong.

She said there could have been complications and I needed to be there, to which I replied that I wouldn’t have been there because she kept me out of the room and the doctors would have handled any problems anyways.

She called me an inconsiderate ******* and has been talking short with me for several days.

Her sister told me I should just apologize and move past it because it was a stressful time for my wife, but I think I’m owed a bigger apology first for how I was excluded from my own son’s birth.”

Check out how folks reacted on Reddit.

One person thinks they’re all to blame.

Another person shared their thoughts.

This Reddit user said he’s NTA.

Another person had an interesting perspective.

And this reader said they think she planned this out a while ago.

Yeah… he should have stayed.

That’s just cold!

If you liked that story, read this one about grandparents who set up a college fund for their grandkid because his parents won’t, but then his parents want to use the money to cover sibling’s medical expenses.