There’s an unwritten understanding that having a third wheel can turn a romantic getaway or evening off course.

So the man in this story was taken aback when his girlfriend suddenly changed their plans, inviting a friend along on a trip they’d planned as a couple.

See how he’s trying to make everyone happy, and decide whether or not you think he should stop.

AITA for wanting to cancel the vacation since my girlfriend invited someone else along?

My girlfriend and I have been planning a trip for a while.

It was supposed to be a getaway, just me and her, to chill and spend some quality time with each other.

Both of us have really been overloaded at work, and this was our chance to take a step back from all that and actually spend time with each other outside of the times when we’re exhausted.

I’ve tried to make this as perfect a vacation for her as possible, even picking up extra shifts to cover the costs.

But it might not be so romantic after all.

All was great until a few days ago when she casually mentioned she was bringing some friend from work.

It shocked me because me since we never talked about bringing anyone along since I was thinking it would just be us.

Her friend is really nice, but we don’t have that much in common, and I can tell it definitely would change the tone of the vacation.

She told me that she knew her friend was having a tough time with the family, too, and she just needed a break.

I understand and I’d like to accommodate her as much as possible.

But to me, it’s really weird that she didn’t tell me before inviting her friend, as it’d mean we’d have to change some of our plans.

I let her know that, then she got a little in my face about it.

So I said we should cancel our trip because it’s not what we had planned.

Then it got even farther away from romance.

It’d feel weird for me to spend what was supposed to be sort of a romantic getaway with a third wheel.

She thinks I’m being selfish and that it’s no big deal for her friend to join us.

She also pulled that guilt trip of how I’ve gone out with my friends without checking up on her, but that’s entirely different because, well, I wasn’t on a supposedly-with-her trip, right?

I told her that by canceling the trip, we could stay behind and help her friend out with her family.

I am trying to accommodate her in her wants and needs, but all she says is that I am trying to get out of a conversation – one which I never knew we needed.

I don’t wanna be a jerk, but again, none of my feelings are being taken into account either.

So, AITA for wanting to cancel this vacation because she invited this person without asking me first?

Here is what folks are saying.

Maybe she’s anxious about it, but this isn’t the way to deal with that. Communicate!

I hadn’t thought of that. I thought it is a surprise threesome.

There is nothing healthy about what she did.

It’s so bizarre to me.

That’s what I thought, but I bet she wouldn’t admit it until they’re already away.

How romantic…

Not.

If you liked that post, check out this story about a guy who was forced to sleep on the couch at his wife’s family’s house, so he went to a hotel instead.