It can be hard to set boundaries with people you love, but it is also extremely important!

The sad truth is that some people will take advantage of your love and good will if you don’t.

Like this man’s girlfriend, who wasn’t satisfied with the free room and board he’d already provided her and her sisters.

Check out the details!

AITA for “favoring” my nephews over my GF’s sisters who live with us

I (31M) inherited my parents’ house and became the guardian of my two nephews (16M & 12M) about 7 years ago.

Before he died, my dad was in the middle of renovating the basement for each nephew to have a large bedroom with their own bathroom.

He did what he could for the parents and his family.

To honor my dad, I finished the renovation and each of my nephews have their own room and bathroom with the specs my dad had made (he was an architect).

About this time, I graduated from law school.

I was having a tough time finding a job, so I decided to start my own firm.

It has worked out very well for me financially.

So, I get to spoil my nephews a fair bit.

But they are good kids, respectful, courteous, and great students.

This is where it gets bad.

3 years ago, I met a woman. Her family is a train wreck.

She has no relationship with extended family because they were involved in this extremely conservative religious church/cult.

Her parents escaped, but are not equipped at parenting.

They had five daughters, my GF (26F) and her sisters (16F, 14F, 10F, 8F).

My GF and I talked about moving in together and did so two years ago.

A little over a year ago, she approached me about moving in her sisters. Her parents are still the legal parents of the sisters, but, they cannot hold down jobs, etc.

The boys didn’t mind the arrangement.

My nephews and I discussed about the sisters moving in. They agreed, but only if they get their rooms and bathrooms.

I said, “absolutely!” and told my GF.

This meant the four sisters would share two small bedrooms and a small bathroom.

The living arrangement has been rough.

The girls are on top of each other and constantly bickering.

My GF has asked if we could have two of her sisters share one of the basement bathrooms.

He was rigid about not disturbing the nephews.

I said “no.”

My GF makes less than a tenth of what I do.

My GF and I split groceries and utilities, but I pay for all the other shared expenses.

Other than paying for standard living expenses, I do not pay for many things for the girls.

My perspective is that is for their parents and/or my GF to do.

I do buy things for my nephews like concert tickets, video game systems, movie tickets, etc.

The girls started expecting too much!

This came to a head recently because my oldest nephew and GF’s oldest sister have birthdays only about a month apart.

For GF’s sister 16th birthday, I bought her some makeup and a nice purse (it was about $100 total).

My nephew wanted to take his girlfriend to a Taylor Swift concert.

I got him two concert tickets to go in about a month.

I also bought him a car.

My GF’s sister felt some type of way (she is a “Swifty” and hates my nephews’ girlfriend, they go to the same school).

The gf got mad at him for being biased!

After his birthday, my GF called me an AH.

She said she was tired of me favoring my nephews and it needs to change.

I told her that my nephews are my responsibility, her sisters are not. I bought her sister a nice gift, but I am not going to treat them like my nephews.

Friend group is divided, so trying to get perspective here.

AITA?

Geez! That doesn’t sound very healthy!

Let’s find out what folks on Reddit have to say about it.

This user thinks the only way this guy is bad is because he’s not saying no to anyone!

This person thinks this man is being used for the greater good.

This user knows that the girl is no saint!

That’s right! This person suggests talking things through with the girlfriend.

Exactly! This user knows this man has already done enough for the gf and her sisters!

How can someone feel so entitled towards their partner’s money?

This gf is insane!

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