We all have our personal preferences as to where to live, where to stay, and where to spend the rest of our lives.

This man narrates how he and his wife have been planning to move down to California to be able to be with their daughter, who’s about to give birth.

However, he changed his mind and didn’t want to let go of their Alaskan home.

Now, their original plans were ruined.

Read below for the full details.

AITA For refusing to give up my home and move closer to my daughter & granddaughter?

I (44M) live in Alaska with my wife (43F).

Our daughter (22F) and her husband (24M) live in the L48.

She is having her first child in a few months, our first grandchild.

We own our home here in Alaska, and I have an excellent career with a unique schedule.

So, I could live in the L48 and fly back and forth to Alaska every two weeks.

My wife works remotely and can work from anywhere.

This man changed his mind about moving to California.

My wife and I had planned to move down there, and buy a duplex next door to my daughter.

After much consideration, I told my wife today that I’m not doing that.

She’s devastated because she feels stuck in Alaska, and is far from her family.

It’s worth noting that it was her idea to move here from California, where I had a successful business that I sold so we can move up here 10 years ago.

He’s willing to travel back and forth, but he’s decided to stay in Alaska.

I’m happy to travel back and forth as often as we like to visit, but I’m keeping my home here.

I don’t want to live there, next door to my daughter.

I raised her to be able to build and live her own life, and I don’t want to follow her around.

I built my life, and I want to live it.

He is even allowing his wife to buy a duplex and stay with their daughter, and she can come and go anytime she wants.

The bulk of my wife’s family lives within a few hours drive of where our daughter lives.

I’d be leaving my dad, in poor health, behind in Alaska.

I don’t want to do that either.

I’m not opposed to buying the duplex.

I can afford to own it and my home in Alaska, but I told my wife to come and go between there and here as often as she likes.

But this is my home, and this is where I’m going to stay.

Let’s check out what other people say about this.

This user shares their personal thoughts.

Here’s another honest opinion.

That sounds ideal, says this one.

Uh oh! He’s a jerk for bailing out, according to this user.

Finally, here’s a short and simple comment.

Sounds like the best of both worlds.

Just make sure to clearly communicate with everyone involved.

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