Having a partner who loves to cook is a real blessing, but no matter how great a chef they are, there will always be some dishes that you just don’t like.

What would you do if your partner got upset when you picked out mushrooms in certain dishes because you don’t like them?

That is the situation the person in this story is in, and she doesn’t know what to do without upsetting him.

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AITA or is my partner just forcing me to conform?

Hi all, I need some 3rd POV on this matter.

For context, my partner & I have been dating for slightly under a year now but recently we had the stupidest fight I’ve ever had in my entire dating life.

My partner is a great cook and likes to cook for me.

It helps that he is a non-picky eater and eats everything and anything.

A very reasonable position.

For me, yes I admit I am picky but I do give things a try before totally deem the food items as likable or eww.

So recently my partner made vegetable pancakes and included shiitake mushrooms in them.

My partner knows that I absolutely hates it in any dish but he loves it so I don’t mind if he puts it in ‘cause when I eat it I’ll just pick it out.

I even provided alternative mushroom options for him to include (though by my preference I rather not have any mushrooms to be included but as a compromise & cos I love him so I force myself to accept alternatives)

This is a weird thing to fight about.

We kept having these repeated fights where he mentions that when I pick things out of my food, it makes my appreciation for his cooking as conditional?

(let me just highlight I repeatedly thank him for cooking every time, hugs him and even do the dishes sometimes).

It also shows that I have no table manners and I must be spoilt by parents while growing up, which makes me feel very frustrated and puzzled at the same time.

I don’t do this in public settings or during family meals, only when it’s just the 2 of us.

During group meals I make a conscious effort to take a bite out of everything & only take repeated ones at the one I like.

His bad childhood shouldn’t make you eat something you don’t like.

He said that if he ever did what I did when he was a child, his parents would have scolded him and thrown him out, which to me sounded like a trauma response & him projecting onto me.

I told him we’re 2 consenting adults and I’m not stopping him from putting in the mushroom but I just prefer not to eat it.

I don’t make him cook 2 different versions, I just force myself to eat it or I’ll pick them out when I can.

He shouldn’t have any say in what you do or don’t eat.

He refuses to let me pick them out and somewhat insists that I should follow him and be grateful that someone even bothers to cook for me.

To which I feel that at this point I feel borderline suffocated to have to pretend to like some ingredient in a dish when I really really don’t like it.

So am I really wrong here?

Is there a way around this?

AITA?

This seems really crazy, everyone has some foods they just don’t like and there is nothing wrong with that.

let’s see what the people in the comments think about this situation.

This person grew up with food issues like this, and is now more sensitive to others.

This person went through something similar.

This commenter says the guy has control issues.

Here is someone who says she should break up with him.

This person makes sure to only cook things that everyone enjoys.

Her boyfriend needs to get over this like yesterday.

She shouldn’t have to eat a food she has tried and doesn’t like.

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