March 31, 2025 at 2:21 am

Hostess Left The Restaurant For Good, But An Unhinged Manager’s Guilt Trip Tried To Drag Her Back In

by Benjamin Cottrell

annoyed woman talking on the phone to her boss

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Some managers don’t understand boundaries — even for employees who just plain don’t work there anymore!

One hostess took great pains to communicate her exit to the company, but when a newly hired manager didn’t get the memo, the hostess found out the hard way that quitting was only half the battle.

Read on for the full story!

I almost got “fired” after having given my two weeks a month and a half prior, got manager demoted instead.

I worked as a hostess during college at a big chain restaurant that had a huge staff.

My location was the management training location for our region, so we had a lot of new managers cycling in and out.

Most of them were promoted servers or bartenders from different locations and had no management experience prior to this.

The hostess had grown accustomed to bad managers coming and going all the time.

I never loved working at this location, as a lot of the new managers were on a little bit of a power trip (kind of comes with the territory as new managers).

After a year of being berated for issues that were completely out of my control, I finally got a new job and put in my two weeks.

Regardless, she still took great pains to stay in good standing with the restaurant.

I handed it directly to our GM, thanked her for everything, and was set to leave on good terms with the company.

Then came the first scheduling mix-up.

Fast forward two weeks, and I received a notification that my schedule was set for the following week.

I called the restaurant and reminded the on-duty manager that I was no longer an employee and they would need to put someone else on to fill my spot.

They apologized, and we moved on.

But that wasn’t the end of it.

Another two weeks passed, and I got the same notification.

I once again called the restaurant to remind them, and they again apologized.

She gave them a heads up that if it happened again, she wouldn’t be reachable.

Before I hung up, I said something along the lines of, “Hey, make sure you make a note of this because I’m going out of the country next week, and I won’t be able to call if this happens again.” They agreed, and we ended it there.

But it didn’t end there.

This is where it gets dramatic.

I was on vacation in Spain when I got a string of angry texts from a new manager at the restaurant reminding me that I was five minutes late.

She told me that if I didn’t arrive in the next five minutes, I’d be written up.

The ex-hostess tries to give her the benefit of the doubt.

I texted back, saying, “Sorry, I know you’re new, but I put in my two weeks over a month ago. I don’t know why I’m still on the schedule.”

But the new manager didn’t seem to be listening.

The new manager replied, saying that although that may be the case, it was absolutely unacceptable that I was missing a shift I was scheduled for.

She said that if I didn’t come in, I would be written up and put in bad standing with the company.

The ex-hostess once again explained her situation.

I responded, explaining that I was out of the country, and although I was sorry for their situation, I was no longer an employee and there was nothing I could do to help.

And that’s when things got really ugly.

I then received a string of at least 15 messages back to back. And let me tell you, they were the most unhinged messages I had ever read.

They went from calling me unprofessional to an arrogant brat —mind you, I had never worked with this woman; she started after I left.

She accused me of lying and being lazy, saying that if you quit a job, you need to give notice and that I should be ashamed of what I had done to the restaurant.

The ex-hostess decided that the time for being nice was over, so she documented the nasty messages.

Of course, I took screenshots of the conversation and sent them to one of the other managers.

Last I heard, she was suspended and then demoted back to her original position at a different location. Definitely for the best.

She may have walked away from the job, but the job wasn’t going to let her go that easily!

What did Reddit have to say?

It’s a good thing the hostess caught the new manager’s crazy before her other staff had to suffer!

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It’s hard to argue with someone who just won’t listen to reason.

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This manager definitely should have had other recourse besides just immediately losing her marbles.

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“Sure, boss — let me just book a quick five-minute trip back from Spain.

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This final scheduling headache was validation that she was much better off leaving that job behind.

After all, delusion is not a valid leadership skill.

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