May 2, 2025 at 10:55 pm

Her Flatmate’s Boyfriend Moved In Without Paying Rent, But When She Spoke Up, Her Flatmate Gave Her The Cold Shoulder

by Benjamin Cottrell

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Flatmates come with quirks, but some also come with plus-ones who overstay their welcome.

One renter tried to keep the peace, but watching her pantry and patience disappear night after night made that tricky.

You’ll want to read on for this one.

AITA for telling my flatmate her boyfriend can’t basically live with us rent-free?

Me (19F) and my flatmate (22F) have been living together for nearly a year.

Then problems began to arise.

It was all fine until like 3 months ago when her boyfriend started staying over more.

At first it was just weekends.

Now it’s basically every night.

He makes his presence around the flat very known.

He eats our food, uses our stuff like electric, gas, etc., and takes up the bathroom forever — but he doesn’t pay a single penny.

But when she confronts her flatmate, she doesn’t react well.

I asked her if he could maybe pay towards bills or at least not be here every single night.

She got suuuper defensive and said I was being petty and jealous?? Like, what?

Now things are awkward and she’s super blunt with me.

She still thinks the situation isn’t fair.

AITA for not wanting a third roommate who pays nothing??

Sounds like her roommate deflected like a pro.

What did Reddit have to say?

It’s time to start getting protective of her things.

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Her roommate’s boyfriend’s behavior is just plain disrespectful.

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Time to consult the lease!

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If this is going to continue, the apartment may be a lost cause altogether.

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The apartment had begun to feel a little more crowded and a lot less fair.

She found herself unfairly stuck with the bill — both financially and emotionally.

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