May 3, 2025 at 6:21 am

Her Friend Bought Her Something Without Asking, And She Doesn’t Want To Pay Her Back

by Matthew Gilligan

two women having serious argument

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I’ve had something like this happen to me before

I’m talking about someone buying me something I didn’t ask them to buy for me…and then expecting me to pay them back.

How weird is that?!?!

And how is someone supposed to handle a situation like that?

Read what this woman did and see if you think she did anything wrong.

AITA for not paying my friend back for something I never asked for?

“This happened like a week ago and it’s still awkward.

My friend and I were at the mall just walking around and we stopped by one of those little skincare booths.

The lady was doing free hand scrubs or whatever, and I was just standing there letting her try it on me because it smelled nice.

The friend was super into it though, asking a million questions.

I said I wasn’t buying anything and even stepped away a little, but while I was looking at a display, the friend ended up buying two of the scrubs.

They were like $35 each.

Huh?

Cool, whatever. But then as we were leaving she handed me one and was like, “Here, I got one for you too.”

I literally said, “Wait what? Why?” and she just shrugged and went, “I know you liked it, it’s no big deal.”

I said thanks but also told her she didn’t have to do that.

Uh oh…

Now fast forward to yesterday, she texts me like, “Hey can you send me $35 for that scrub when you get a chance?”

I was confused and said, “I thought you were treating me,” and she goes, “Well I didn’t think I’d have to pay for both. I assumed you’d Zelle me later.”

Ummm what??

I didn’t ask for it. I didn’t agree to it.

And she literally said “it’s no big deal.”

No way!

I told her nicely that I’m not paying for something I didn’t want in the first place.

Now she’s acting like I’m taking advantage of her and says she wouldn’t have bought it if she knew I wouldn’t pay her back.

So now I feel weird. I didn’t want it. I didn’t ask.

But I also don’t want to seem ungrateful.

AITA?”

Here’s what folks had to say on Reddit.

This person said they’re NTA.

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Another reader agreed.

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This Reddit user spoke up.

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Another individual chimed in.

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And this reader said they’re NTA.

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A word to the wise: don’t buy things for people without asking them and then expect them to pay you back.

That’s just common sense.

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