May 26, 2025 at 10:35 pm

Woman’s Husband Made Fun Of Her Job And Called It A “Hobby” In Front Of His Boss And Coworkers

by Mila Cardozo

Woman looking upset during dinner party

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Some people only show their true colors after a while.

In this woman’s case, her husband started showing who he truly is during a work dinner with his boss and coworkers.

She did not like what she saw, so she called him out on it.

Now she’s wondering if she’s taking the situation too seriously.

Let’s analyze the situation.

AITA for not laughing when my husband joked about my ‘hobby’ job in front of his boss?

My husband was invited to this work dinner at his boss’s house and his whole office was invited.

My husband has a higher-paying job than mine and it doesn’t really bother me because I love what I do, but he does lack interest in my work because of it.

The first iffy thing was when we were getting ready, he gave me a “check” or something like that, where he gave me the run down of dinner etiquette.

That’s patronizing, especially considering her background.

I know dinner etiquette, my parents used to host this kind of dinner all the time, so yeah, I know how to act and how to behave.

All his co-workers were going to the dinner and they brought their wives with them, so it was pretty packed.

Dinner was nice until we got to the dessert portions, my husband’s coworkers started talking about their wives and their hobbies.

Her husband patronized her again.

My husband brought up my “hobby”. I’m a journalist, and I write stuff once in a while.

He talked about some of the stuff I’ve written, describing it as “silly”.

I didn’t say anything and smiled awkwardly but he just kept going, saying he doesn’t read my stuff because he “doesn’t want to be all up in my head”.

She waited until they were home to discuss it.

When we got home, I talked to him about the jokes and said I didn’t find them funny, but rather somewhat offensive and disrespectful towards my work.

He told me to learn how to take a joke.

I tried to ignore it, so I just kept doing my thing, but then he started getting handsy and I rejected his advances because I was still sour about dinner and he got upset, so we went on and on about the dinner thing.

He doesn’t understand just how disrespectful he was.

I wasn’t even addressing him making fun of me, I was generally upset over the hobby thing, because it’s not a hobby, it’s my line of work which I love and am very passionate about.

He admitted to maybe being in the wrong for the jokes, but that they were “based on facts”.

She suspects he took her background personally.

I grew up significantly wealthier than him, I do not leech off of my parents, nor do they send me money out of free will.

My parents have never said or done anything to make him feel inferior and they get along very well.

We met when I was going through some sort of hippie phase. I wasn’t talking to my parents and I did not get along well with them at the time.

I was some manic pixie dream girl at the time and I think he got wayyy too attached to that version of me (I was 25, I’m 32).

There’s a bigger issue behind his behavior.

He called me dull and compared me to my mom, which isn’t bad in it of its self, but he said it as an insult and said I was becoming a suburban mom (we have a son, he’s two).

I feel like he doesn’t really appreciate me as a person or care about me as much as a husband should for his wife.

I get what he’s saying, but I’m getting older, I’m a mom and I’m advancing in my career and have a lot on my plate apart from that.

Now she’s wondering if she’s in the wrong.

I do love my husband, I married and started a family with him for a reason but maybe I took the joke too seriously?

I’m not sure if I blew it too out of proportion because I asked friends and they said that maybe I took it too seriously, etc etc.

AITA?

This is sad. He needs to address his existential crisis and insecurities with a therapist, not take it on his wife.

Let’s see if Reddit has any insight about this situation.

A reader shares their thoughts.

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This reader shares their point of view.

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This comment sums it up.

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Yup.

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Another reader chimes in.

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Exactly!

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She needs to decide whether it’s worth it to stay in this marriage or not.

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