Compromises on family trips are pretty much a given, but not everyone agrees on what’s fair.

When one couple found themselves forced to sleep in a bunk bed while the kids got private bedrooms, they began to question their place in the pecking order.

You’ll want to read on for this one!

AITA – Sleeping in bunks on a family vacation?

My brother recently invited my parents and my spouse and I on a family trip to the beach this summer.

The place we are staying is a 3 bedroom / 3 bathroom house with some additional recessed bunks in the hallway.

Here’s where I’m not sure I’m the AH.

My spouse and I assumed that we would be getting one of the bedrooms with a bathroom, as we are one of the married couples coming.

But it turns out, this assumption was very wrong.

However, my brother is saying that my two nephews (4 and 7) would not be able to fall asleep in the bunks.

He insists that the kids need one of the rooms, and my spouse and I would need to sleep in the bunks.

This would dramatically change their quality of life on the trip.

This would also mean we would not have a dedicated bathroom on this trip, and most likely also means my spouse and I would sleep separately technically because I think each bunk is a single.

The kids are well behaved and do not have any disabilities or concerns that would require them to have a separate bedroom, in case that affects anything.

AITA for thinking this is not acceptable?

Sleeping in bunk beds as kids is practically a rite of passage.

What did Reddit think?

This commenter agrees that the current sleeping arrangements are way out of wack.

Maybe this whole vacation is a no-go.

If the adults don’t get to sleep comfortably, then it’s their prerogative to opt out.

For this redditor, it all depends on who’s paying the bills.

This situation would make any adult wonder whether the trip would be worth the discomfort.

Ultimately, it was about more than a bed — it was about feeling respected.

If you liked that post, check out this story about a guy who was forced to sleep on the couch at his wife’s family’s house, so he went to a hotel instead.