Helping family can sometimes be complicated, especially if money is involved.

Would you co-sign a loan for a family member/

This man went to a family gathering with his girlfriend, and his girlfriend’s brother approached him to asked for a big favor.

The brother wanted him to co-sign a loan so he could buy a car.

This man thinks that’s a bad idea, but he also wonders if he was wrong for refusing to co-sign.

Check out the full story below to find out more.

AITA for being selfish and not co-signing loan?

Yesterday, my girlfriend (27F) and I (27M) went to a gathering at her parents.

Her brother was there. Let’s call him Eli (31M).

When we got there, he asked to talk to me and asked if I can co-sign a loan, so he can get a car.

This man was hesitant to agree with his girlfriend’s brother’s request.

I suggested asking his parents.

He said they’ll say no.

I was on the fence since he doesn’t have the best history with money or driving, DUIs, suspensions, and more.

He politely refused.

I said no as gently as I could.

And then, he said it was urgent.

He said he needs it to be able to get his daughter from school since she’s been transferred to a new one further away.

He offered an alternative solution to the brother’s problem.

I offered to see if our nanny could take on picking his daughter up.

(We each have a young child from previous relationships, and we all live together.)

Our children’s school is very close.

I told him that I’d cover any extra costs, but he refused.

But the brother called him selfish.

I told him I didn’t feel comfortable co-signing and that he can think about what I said if he wants.

He called me selfish and said I was treating him like he’s a bad father.

When they tried to pacify the issue, the brother walked away.

I tried to deescalate.

My girlfriend came over and tried to help diffuse the situation as well before it got worse.

Eli stormed off.

AITA?

He made the right decision not to cosign a loan.

Let’s read the reactions of other people to this story on Reddit.

This user shares their personal thoughts.

Here’s a valid point from this person.

Smart move on your part, says this user.

Another honest opinion from this person.

Finally, short and simple.

You don’t have to risk your future to be a decent person.

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