Isn’t it insane how people sometimes walk back in your life after abandoning you?

If you had an absentee parent who showed up out of the blue when you were an adult, would you welcome them with open arms, or would you push them away since they pushed you away your whole life?

This woman shares how her mom abandoned her when she was just a child, but now that she’s an adult, her mom wants her to play a huge role in her wedding.

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AITAH for telling my mom I won’t come to her wedding because she’s never really been my mom?

I (26F) was raised by my grandma.

My mom had me when she was 18 and, as she puts it, “wasn’t ready to be a mom.”

She left me with her mother when I was about 2 years old, and would only visit maybe once a year.

Thank goodness for Grandma!

Sometimes she’d show up on my birthday with a gift and a hug, sometimes not even that.

Grandma did everything, school pickups, scraped knees, and college applications.

She was my everything.

My mom was always just someone who existed in the background of my life.

She’s had a rough childhood.

Last month, my mom called me out of the blue and said she was getting married.

I was surprised, didn’t even know she was dating anyone, but I congratulated her.

Then she asked if I would walk her down the aisle.

I was honestly stunned.

She may have been too honest with her mom.

I asked why she wanted me to do that.

She said it would mean the world to her, that she was “trying to build a real relationship now.”

I told her I appreciated that, but the truth is, I don’t feel like her daughter. I feel like her niece, maybe. Or just someone she knows.

She started crying and told me I was being cruel. That she’s trying now, and I’m punishing her for her past.

I told her that healing doesn’t mean pretending the past didn’t happen.

She wasn’t expecting that!

I said I wasn’t ready to step into that role just because it’s convenient for her now.

Since then, I’ve had family members tell me I’m heartless. That I should be happy she’s finally including me.

But all I can think is, where was this effort when I was 8? Or 15? Or graduating from college?

She’s not sure if she wants to do it.

I’m not trying to be vindictive.

I just feel like I’m being asked to play “daughter” for a day, and then go back to being an afterthought.

So, AITAH for saying no?

Her relationship with her mom barely exists. Is she wrong to push her mom away when her mom wants her by her side, or is she right for not wanting to pretend like their relationship is closer than it really is?

Let’s find out what folks on Reddit think about this one.

That’s right! This user knows the mom wants to make everything about herself.

This user knows the mom is just being selfish.

This user is surprised her mom would want her to walk down the aisle.

This user knows how to respond to the family.

This user knows the kind of relationship this mother-daughter have.

Her mother is asking too much!

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