Family weddings can bring out both generosity and resentment.

One couple quietly kept track of who showed up empty-handed to their wedding. So when one woman’s brother-in-law (who didn’t buy them a gift) got married, she wasn’t so sure he deserved a present.

You’ll want to read on for this one.

AITA for not getting my brother in law an engagement or wedding gift because he didn’t get me and my husband anything?

I (27F) and my husband (28M) got married in 2023. We had a ceremony (just immediate family) in summer 2023 and then a small reception to celebrate in 2024.

My brother-in-law (husband’s brother, 22M) is getting engaged and married to his girlfriend.

However, she still feels slighted by how they behaved at her wedding.

I didn’t get him anything due to the fact that he didn’t get us anything for our ceremony and reception (not even a card wishing us well), both of which he was present for.

She thinks he should have been more than capable of gifting them something.

He is not in school, so the broke college kid concept is not a factor here—he did a technical program and now makes more money than either one of us does individually.

He doesn’t have any student loans, but he does spend pretty frivolously on himself.

AITA for not getting him anything (money, anything off the registry, etc.)?

It’s natural to want fairness, but it’s not always plausible.

What did Reddit think?

This commenter doesn’t think this is a healthy mindset.

Thoughtful wedding gifts just aren’t typically on a twenty-year-old’s radar.

It’s time to be the bigger person here.

It’s not fair to hold such a petty grudge against her family.

Ultimately, life isn’t a scorecard, and withholding kindness over a past slight only creates more distance.

She may feel justified, but she’s just petty.

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