Planning a wedding means juggling feelings, opinions, and more than a few grudges.

So when one bride-to-be intentionally left off her mom’s new boyfriend from her guest list, it turned what should have been a happy occasion into a standoff.

Read on for the full story.

AITA for refusing to let my mom bring her boyfriend to my wedding even though she says I’m “punishing her for being happy”?

Okay, so I (28F) am getting married in October.

My mom (52F) has been divorced from my dad for about five years, and honestly, it wasn’t a messy divorce. They just fell out of love.

But here’s where the drama really begins.

Here’s where it gets messy: six months after the divorce, my mom started dating Mark.

I’ve never liked this guy. He’s the type of person who talks over everyone, makes inappropriate jokes, and constantly tries to insert himself into family decisions.

My dad can’t stand him either, but he’s been civil.

So when it came time to make her guest list, she knew she didn’t want Mark there.

Fast forward to now, I sent out my wedding invites, and I intentionally did not include Mark on my mom’s invitation.

I wanted the wedding to feel like family, and Mark just isn’t that to me.

But of course, her mother has a thing or two to say about it.

My mom called me crying, saying I was being “cruel” and “punishing her for being happy.” She even threatened not to show up to my wedding.

She thought she was protecting her wedding from drama, but all she did was create more of it.

What did Reddit think?

This commenter understands why her mother is so upset.

Maybe there’s something to be said for momentarily putting her dislike for Mark to the side.

She may not like him, but her mom definitely does.

This user drops a needed truth bomb about weddings.

She wanted her special day to be remembered for love, but if she doesn’t reverse course soon, it may very well be remembered for conflict.

If she wants to salvage her relationship with her mother, she should choose happiness over a petty grudge.

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