September 6, 2025 at 5:24 pm

Man Is Satisfied With The Current Setup Of His Duplex Home, So He Refused His Neighbor’s Plan Of Installing A Fire Pit

by Heide Lazaro

Rustic backyard fire pit with log stools

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A well-organized outdoor space can add peace and enjoyment to your daily life.

If your neighbor wanted to make some major changes to their outdoor space, would you be all for it, or would you worry about how these changes would impact your own space?

This man lives in a duplex and is very satisfied with the current setup with his neighbor; however, his neighbor wants to make some changes.

So he told the neighbor he doesn’t agree with the plan, and he’s wondering if he’s a jerk for saying that.

Read the full story below to find out more.

AITA for stopping neighbor from installing fire pit and seating just outside my bedroom window?

I live in a duplex.

I own the north half, and my neighbor owns the south half.

I have a deck on the north side, and he has a deck on the south side.

The front is the west side where we have garages and our front doors.

The backyard is the east side (only windows on this side, no doors) and is a lawn.

This man’s neighbor wanted to install an “entertainment” area on his lawn.

My neighbor wants to remove the lawn on his side and install a fire pit, chairs, lights, etc.

However, the location he chose is right up against the property line. This was also 6 ft. from my bedroom window.

I don’t want to hear them “entertaining” out there all the time.

He doesn’t approve of his neighbor’s plan.

I pointed out that we both have decks on opposite sides for this reason.

So we don’t disturb each other.

Additionally, three of my four bedroom windows are within whisper distance of this area.

The backyard has always been dark and quiet, and I see no reason to change this.

I told him I would only approve if he mitigated the noise with a privacy wall or something similar.

He thinks that the new setup might affect his property’s value.

Furthermore, I am worried when I decided to sell it the buyer will see a fire pit from the neighbor near their bedroom window and not buy it.

I don’t have air conditioning, so the windows are all open from April through October.

Now, his neighbor is calling him a jerk for not agreeing with the plan.

I love how everything is currently set up.

We can both entertain and not disturb each other, because we are on opposite sides.

My neighbor says I am the jerk for not allowing it.

AITA for vetoing his request to add an entertainment patio here?

Is this neighbor right to be concerned about his neighbor’s plans?

Let’s see how others reacted to this story on Reddit.

This person offers some serious advice.

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You are right to veto it, says this person.

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This user shares their personal thoughts.

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People are giving out warnings.

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Finally, short and simple.

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Respecting shared space helps everyone feel at home.

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