Respect and communication are vital in every family.

What would you do if your family member wouldn’t even let you finish a sentence without dismissing what you were saying and shutting you down?

This man helped host visiting relatives and even helped plan their trip.

However, he was surprised to learn that there was a sudden change of plans.

His father demanded that he go with his relatives, but he refused.

Now, he’s not speaking to his father. Did he overreact?

Read the full story below for all the details.

AITA for giving my dad the cold shoulder after he refused to even hear me out about a family errand?

I (33M) live with my wife, my parents, and my brother.

Recently, five of my aunts and one cousin (with his wife) came to stay with us for a few days.

My wife, brother, and I all work full-time. My father (65M) is retired, and my mom is a homemaker.

This man helped plan their relatives’ stay with them.

Despite our jobs, the three of us have been doing our best to make sure everyone has a good time.

We were taking them sightseeing, planning stuff, etc.

It’s been exhausting but manageable because we’ve been coordinating.

He was shocked to learn of the change of plans.

Here’s where things got tense.

One evening, I was suddenly told that I had to accompany my cousin, his wife, and his mom to the hospital the next morning for some minor appointment.

They also had plans to go on a one-day temple trip afterward which I had already planned to assist with around lunchtime.

I had intended to meet them at the hospital later in the day to help move things along, but I wasn’t expecting to be needed from the very beginning, especially when there was literally nothing for me to do there in the morning.

So, he tried explaining to his dad that he won’t be available in the morning.

Now, in my family, there’s a weird habit of dragging everyone along even for the most minor errands, mostly out of paranoia and over-preparation.

I tried to explain to my father that it wasn’t feasible for me to go for the full day, especially since I had work commitments.

I wanted to discuss alternate options, like me joining later or someone else going in the morning.

But before I could even finish, my father shut me down. “I can’t make you understand, but you’ll have to go. No questions asked.”

He was hurt and frustrated, but he controlled his emotions.

I was shocked.

He didn’t let me finish my sentence, didn’t try to work out a solution, didn’t even acknowledge my point.

Just a brick wall of a response.

I was furious but bit my tongue to avoid a scene.

Instead, he gave his father the cold shoulder.

Later that night, I vented to my wife and brother.

My wife came up with a workaround: one of the other aunts would accompany them instead, and the situation resolved itself without my involvement.

They all left yesterday, but I’ve been giving my father the cold shoulder since then.

It’s not about the fact that I didn’t end up going. (I’m glad to help out when needed.) But more about how completely dismissive and authoritative he was.

Now, his brother thinks he is the jerk for giving their dad the silent treatment.

I came to him like a son asking his father for help, just to be told to shut up and follow orders.

Now, my brother is calling me a jerk for giving my dad the cold shoulder, saying I’m being petty.

But I feel hurt and disrespected. I don’t think it’s too much to expect a basic conversation, especially from your own father.

So, AITA?

Should he give his dad a break, or is he right to be upset?

Let’s find out what others are saying about this story on Reddit.

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Having boundaries is important, says this person.

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Finally, this person offers some thoughtful advice.

No matter how much they try to hide it, parents’ words can really hurt their children.

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