Have you ever tried to help someone and had it really backfire?

Imagine doing exactly what you thought you were supposed to be doing, but when you later tell the person you were helping what you did, they insist that you messed up and destroyed what they worked on.

Would you apologize, or would you expect them to apologize for getting mad at you?

The husband and wife in this story find themselves in this situation.

Let’s see what happened.

AITA for helping in the garden

Sooo me and wife are at home together for the next week as she just had major surgery and so am taking time off work to help her with her recovery.

Today day 3 she was house bored and wanted to go to the garden (improvement!).

We picked peas together, she went to the beans, me onto Onions. A brief discussion of where the mesh bags happened, then I got to work, pulled em all.

It was a 30°Celsius day and she tuckered out quick, we went inside and I left them to dry in the sun.

His wife is furious.

Hours later when it cooled I said I’m going to finish the onions, and I got yelled at.

She said she told me not to pull them out, and that I wrecked them by leaving em in the sun for 4 hours.

I was trying to help and didn’t hear her say anything about not doing so.

She refuses to believe that.

He wants her to apologize.

I asked for an apology for her yelling as it hurt as I was trying to help.

She refuses mad I “wrecked” something she worked hard on.

I looked online and it says they like to be dried out but she doesn’t believe me.

Did he really mess up, or is his wife overreacting?

Let’s see what Reddit has to say about this story.

Her outburst might’ve been related to her surgery.

This person thinks he really messed up with the onions.

I agree with this perspective about helping.

Another person thinks they both need to calm down.

Helping isn’t helpful if you do it wrong.

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