Growing up without your parents’ love and guidance can leave deep wounds in your heart.

If you were in that situation, would you be honest with your parents about how it made you feel?

This woman grew up caught between two divorced parents who constantly criticized each other.

She endured years of being used as an outlet for her father’s frustrations, even if she rarely sees him in person.

So, she finally spoke up about her true feelings.

Read the full story below for all the details.

AITA for telling my father that he never cared about me?

Growing up, I had to hear both of my (divorced) parents complain about each other.

They said how the other was the worse person, and how they were the parent that didn’t care about me.

My mother tried to abandon me and leave me with her mom.

But my dad just straight up never came to court for custody.

This woman rarely gets to see her dad.

My mom straight up was “just going to let him have me” (her words).

My mom gets triggered really bad hearing about my dad, but my dad is unbearable about it.

He constantly uses me to vent to like a therapist.

Even though I never get to see him since he’s always with his other family.

She got tired of hearing his issues, so she decided to confront him.

Almost every interaction is about how bad his life is, how much my mom hurt him, or she took me away from him, and how he “couldn’t do anything about it because she ran off with me to another state.”

I finally got sick of it and asked him why he didn’t do anything about it then.

If it hurt him so much, and if he wanted to see me so bad, why didn’t he show up for the custody thing?

He said “because I couldn’t handle seeing her.”

Oh, okay.

She told him he doesn’t have the right to complain.

So I said, “Well, obviously you didn’t even care enough about me to even try to fight for custody. So you don’t have any right to complain about not having any.”

He got really mad, and I keep hearing about how “he’s been through so much” and how cruel I am for hurting his feelings in such a way.

I say it hurt more not knowing who he was until I was almost a preteen because he didn’t care enough about me to try.

So, AITA?

Is she right to be upset with her dad? Let’s find out what others have to say about this on Reddit.

This user shares their personal thoughts.

This person gives their honest opinion.

You are right to tell him what kind of father he was, says this person.

Finally, people are saying the same thing.

Children will never forget who showed up and who never did.

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