Spending quality time is one of the ways you show you love someone.

This man opened up to his girlfriend about her lack of reciprocity in putting effort into their relationship, to which she responded positively.

However, she made some questionable decisions regarding their time spent together.

Read below for the full story.

Girlfriend (f24) booked something on our anniversary after I (M25) opened up about wanting more quality time

I work a 3-weeks-away/6-days-home roster, so the little time I get with my girlfriend really matters to me.

I’ve felt like I put in a lot of effort (surprises, gifts, quality time) and don’t always get the same back.

I finally opened up to her about it — even told her it’s been keeping me up at night.

And she responded really positively, saying she values our time and wants to protect it.

This man’s girlfriend made other plans during what’s supposed to be their time together.

But now she’s agreed to dog sit for half the days I’m home.

And she’s also booked an unpaid English lesson for a male colleague on the 9th — which happens to be our 1-year first-date anniversary.

That’s the exact day I’d planned a special dinner.

I can’t tell if she’s just not realising the date, if she doesn’t value anniversaries the same way, or if I’m right to feel hurt.

So now he’s left with a lot of questions.

AITA for feeling jealous?

Am I overthinking this?

Is it fair to feel like she’s not prioritising our relationship in the little time we have?

How should I approach this without sounding controlling or jealous?

She’ll spend your anniversary with another guy. That’s got to hurt.

Let’s see what others think to this story.

This makes sense.

Remind her, says this one.

This person shares some insight.

His expectations are unrealistic, says this reader.

People seem to have mixed opinions.

Love is a two-way street.

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