Boundaries only work if the other person actually listens to them. This story is proof that some people would rather bulldoze their way through life than respect boundaries.

One woman and her husband, both disabled and without any medical training between them, have made it clear multiple times that her father-in-law cannot move in once he loses his current housing. The reasoning was simple: they physically can’t provide the level of care he’d need.

Somehow that message never landed.

Instead, word came through a phone call that he’d already been telling family he was moving in, as if their previous conversation had never happened at all.

You’ll want to keep reading for this one.

AITA for being angry with my FIL for telling my MIL he’s moving in with us after we’ve repeatedly told him no?

I (F, 54) am disabled, as is my husband (M, 44), and my FIL will shortly be losing his current housing situation.

The couple has been very clear with him that they have certain boundaries they aren’t willing to cross.

We have told him on many occasions he can NOT move in with us. Because we are both disabled and also do not have medical training, we just are unable to care for him properly.

But clearly her MIL didn’t get the message.

Today my MIL called asking for a ride because she is taking some things from his place tomorrow, and she said he told her he was moving here.

She had already given her husband a strongly worded ultimatum.

I told her no he isn’t, in fact if my husband had ever offered that, he wouldn’t, I would divorce him.

So tomorrow my husband is going to have a face to face talk with his dad yet again.

I hope it sinks in, because if I have to tell him it will be a far less polite conversation.

She can’t be any more clear than she already has been.

What did Reddit have to say?

This woman knows her limits and her in-laws need to accept them, even if they don’t agree.

It’s best to get some things in writing.

Once you let someone in, it can be hard to get them out.

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Her FIL should get the support he needs, but not from them.

Saying no once should be enough. Saying no on “many occasions” and still getting treated like the answer was somehow negotiable says everything about how her in-laws handle conflict.

Being disabled without medical training isn’t a convenient excuse; it’s a legitimate, practical limitation on the kind of living arrangement she needs.

Her in-laws need to start putting together an actual plan, one that doesn’t require operating on assumptions or faulty circumstances.

You can’t ignore someone’s answer just because you don’t like it.