I’m gonna give you some fair warning…this story might depress you a little bit.

Because if you ever think that the youth of today aren’t exactly the most polite group of people on the planet, this story will confirm that suspicion.

A woman went into detail about how her niece behaved on a trip that most kids would love to go on.

Check out what happened in the story below.

Am I Overreacting by No Longer Providing Gifts and Removing my Nieces from Inheritance for what I perceive to be a Lack of Gratitude and an Entitled Attitude?

“My twin nieces graduated from college this year, but I did not give a card or any gift. Nor did I give them a card or gift for their last birthday and this past Christmas.

I have never missed giving a card and gift for their entire lives, along with other gifts along the way (e.g., souvenirs from trips, spending money when they went to London, paying for their passports, etc.).

Until last year, I planned to continue giving lifelong gifts.

What changed…?

Then reality hit.

Last year, one of my nieces, Polly, was studying abroad in Paris for a semester. I had two weeks’ vacation time that I was planning on traveling around England but discussed with Polly about coming to Paris and taking her to some unique places instead.

She eagerly agreed.

They planned the trip.

I had time restrictions around her class schedule, so I planned some mini trips from Paris with returning back to Paris to ensure Polly could attend classes and study sessions.

I gave Polly options to select from with highlighting what could be seen where we were there.

Polly chose Cologne and Koblenz (Germany), Giverny (France), Annecy (France), and Geneva (Switzerland).

This is very generous!

I offered to pay for meals, transportation (i.e., trains, taxi, tram), hotels, and tickets for tours (e.g., castles, Cologne Cathedral, Claude Monet’s house and museum, etc.), which I did.

She was on her own for souvenirs and other miscellaneous things.

I chose nice hotels in central locations, mostly first-class train travel (Premier class on Eurostar on the return from Cologne to Germany as a full dinner is provided and we would be traveling during dinner hours), and nice places to eat and have a drink.

Before she began her trip, I bought her travel-safe baggage and sent her extra money.

Wow, she really went above and beyond.

I also paid for her passport as well as her siblings.

I also booked a flight with checked bag (although I only had a backpack carry-on), as I offered to take a bag of her unneeded winter items back as she would need her allotted baggage to bring things she acquired while there.

Polly was returning home a week later.

Options not chosen were with Belgium and the Netherlands, but I did a side trip to Belgium and went to the Netherlands last fall – both lovely countries. Why have I gone from that to nothing?

Wow…

The morning, I landed in Paris after a 7.5-hour flight in the early morning (about 8:30 AM local time), I messaged her.

She left me UNREAD all day although I could see that she was active on Instagram and WhatsApp throughout the day.

I messaged her numerous times on both platforms all day, only to be left UNREAD.

I had let me know I would only have phone access via WiFi (I was not planning on using my international phone plan until the day and conveyed this information before I left).

She was pretty upset.

In my opinion, this shows me a lack of courtesy and concern. I could have needed help and she didn’t care enough to see if I was okay.

I had booked a small boutique hotel about a 10-minute walk from the train station where we had a 7 AM departure the nest morning.

Prior to landing, I had requested that we meet up around dinner time, as we had an early train trip and I would be taking an overnight flight (hence, would only be getting a few hours sleep).’

This is so rude.

She showed up after 11 PM, although when she finally contacted me about 7 PM, she said she still needed to eat dinner and shower.

I did not expect that to take over 4 hours.

She was about a 30-minute Metro ride away.

She was still thoughtful.

I waited for Polly to arrive and didn’t sleep, as I was afraid that I may fall into a deep sleep with being sleep deprived and may miss her notifications or call.

The hotel staff was not going to give Polly access without my coming to the lobby and clearing Polly (only my name was on the reservation).

I was hoping this trip would be a great bonding experience with plenty of time on the train to converse, except Polly spent that time watching videos, sleeping, playing games, or on FaceTime with friends or her sister, Molly.

She thought Polly was rude once again.

In Cologne, we had a nice lunch, browsed some shops, and toured the Cathedral. We had a ICE train scheduled to Koblenz that afternoon and I stopped in a pedestrian square to use my phone to check the location of the train station on our ticket, as it was different from the train station that we arrived.

She barked to “Just keep walking.”

Mind you, this was a bricked area with no one around. I prefer not tripping and possibly dropping my phone or getting injured. We had plenty of time before the train departure. In fact, I took her to the rather pricey Observation Deck after that.

What a freakin’ brat!

In Koblenz, she had wanted to try the Donner-kebob that her friend she had been texting all day had recommended as must-have German food (**sigh**) and I obliged.

I would have preferred something more authentically German and not something that is available basically in any major city.

After 3 days in Germany, I never even received a simple thanks or anything that resembled gratitude. None whatsoever – not when I took her to eat, gave her train tickets, paid for a taxi, paid for castles, etc.

When departing in Paris, I received no comments like “Had a great time” or anything similar, but she only bluntly asked what time we are leaving for Giverny the next day.

Polly wasn’t thoughtful or considerate at all.

I arranged to stay in a hotel near where she was living with her host family, but Polly showed no interest in spending any time together (e.g., showing me her school, any cool places she discovered after living there for nearly four months, meeting her host family, etc.).

After the first night in Germany, I asked her to please silence her message notifications on her phone at night, but she said she didn’t know how. I offered to show her, but she said she would figure it out. She never did.

Her phone charger had a bright light on it, when plugged in. I asked her to please cover it at night, but that also was too much of an ask. It was also too much to not leave shoes in the middle of the walkway to the bathroom, so tripping at night was an additional fun factor.

This kid needs a serious attitude adjustment.

When I was telling her about the details for Germany, I mentioned that out hotel was near the train station.

She responded by asking if I just always stay in hotels.

I had no idea what she was asking and said “sure”.

She then retorted that she and her friends stay in hostels and AirBNBs and followed it with “Do you even know what those are?”

She could’ve canceled everything.

I have stayed in dozens of hostels and AirBNBs along the way and in recent times. It was apparent that she never had paid enough attention throughout the years to know that.

The people that I spoke with from back home said they would have canceled her train tickets and gone solo for the reminder.

I did not want to break my word and hoped that things would change.

The tickets were refundable.

She still wanted to stay true to her word.

At this point, I had decided that I was only keeping my word, taking Polly to the sites that we agreed upon prior.

Thus, when she wanted to go to an additional museum in Giverny, I chose not to go and if Polly wanted to go, then that is on her.

Earlier that day, while waiting in line to get into Giverny, I handed her the ticket she needed for entry (I purchased in advance) and not only did I not get a simple thanks (or merci), but she acted as if I was bothering her.

We returned to Paris and I had booked a hotel literally a 7-minute walk from where she was staying with her host family. Again, I was hoping that she would introduce me or offer to show me around her neighborhood.

That did not occur and Polly only wanted to know what time the train was for Annecy the next day (which was at noon).

It was not the trip she imagined at all.

I spent the morning exploring her neighborhood and a nearby park on my own. It was nice, but not what I was hoping for.

The train to Annecy was more of the same with her being on her phone except when she was allegedly working on some schoolwork on her computer or taking a nap.

The countryside was beautiful and how magical a trip through the Rhone Alps to Annecy that she missed.

Polly’s rudeness continues.

I received a few snarky comments along the way.

For example, we crossed a beautiful river gorge, while on the train. I commented on how beautiful the river was.

Polly retorted it was not a river. It was small but was the Feu River.

In Annecy, we had a lovely apartment in old town, so I bought lots of groceries at the organic market to make a light dinner (i.e., bread, meat, cheeses, vegetables, fruit, wine, chocolates, etc.) as it rained all evening. I arranged for a tour the next day to a beautiful castle and hike through a river gorge (the river seen from train, ironically).

Good grief!

At the castle, instead of exploring the place, I found her sitting by the bus staring at her phone. Her being glued to her phone was the norm: in beautiful churches – on her phone, on trains and buses – on her phone, often at meals – on her phone, etc.

In Geneva, I was interested in going to Turkish baths but didn’t go. Polly wasn’t comfortable with some people possibly being textile-free even though it was women’s only day.

I also wanted to get bikes to bike around Lake Geneva, but Polly doesn’t like to bike. There were well-established bike lanes.

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The food sounds delicious.

We got a delicious cheese fondue dinner, went to the botanical gardens, did some site-seeing, took the boat from one side of Geneva across Lake Geneva, went to souvenir shops, had crepes and hot chocolate for a late breakfast/early lunch, and got some nice chocolates.

I was planning on giving her €150 for her to get herself and her siblings some gifts, but that decision was rescinded after before offer made.

Polly traveled to a few places in Europe prior to our trip – places I have never been.

Polly picked up lots of souvenirs for her other aunt and grandmother – which did not go over, but neither did my mom – but gave us absolutely nothing from her time abroad (not even a picture).

In addition, I sent Polly and her siblings each $100 when they went to London when her mom and dad (my brother) visited a few months prior.

These kids are rotten!

Her twin, Molly, never even let me know she received the Apple Cash, let alone thank me.

Am I wrong for thinking that a simple acknowledgement of receipt is the bare minimum someone can do?

Am I wrong for thinking that they could have picked up a small item like a postcard or a magnet or even just sent me a picture or a message?

She summarizes all the things she thinks Polly did wrong.

Bullet points:

· Left my messages UNREAD for nearly the whole day upon my arrival to visit her

· Showing up late to the hotel (hours past what was agreed upon)

· Does not seem to know how to say thanks in any language

· Snarky attitude

The list continues.

· I took pictures of her along the way but quickly bolted after getting her picture taken and never offered to get a picture of me. There are no pictures taken together or any taken of me by her.

· Walked slowly except when in the Paris metro when she would take off knowing that I was not familiar with the metro (only been to Paris one other time)

· Got souvenirs for her other aunt, grandmothers, etc., but neither my mom nor myself even received anything … not even a postcard or other small item

· Could not even say hello (or even a wave) to me or my mom at her younger sister’s graduation party, which occurred a month after she returned.

There’s one more thing she realized.

Realization that neither her nor her siblings have ever even given me or my mom a token of appreciation (e.g., card, senior picture (we received one school picture once when they were in Middle School although their parents bought school pictures annually), childhood drawing, etc.) in their entire lifetime, despite us attending as many events as possible (e.g., birthdays, graduation parties, holidays, etc..) and never failed to give cards and gifts for their birthdays or Christmas.

So, am I overreacting?”

Here’s what folks said on Reddit.

This person didn’t hold back.

Another individual shared their thoughts.

This Reddit user spoke up.

Another individual weighed in.

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And this reader shared their thoughts.

This kid is a BRAT.

No doubt about it!

Hopefully she’ll snap out of this entitled behavior…

She should never spend another dime on her niece!