Imagine returning from a trip, and a couple of your friends offer to let you stay in their apartment while they’re out of town. If you took them up on the offer, would you be sure to take good care of all of their belongings, or would you think it’s perfectly fine to throw things away without even telling them first?

In this story, one couple agrees to let another couple stay in their apartment while they’re visiting family in another country. When they return, they’re shocked to discover that the friends threw away a lot of things in their kitchen.

Now, the couple is arguing about how to handle the situation. Should they prioritize the friendship or getting their stuff replaced?

Keep reading for all the details and to find out what excuse the friends give for throwing things away.

AITA for demanding money back after a friend threw away most of my kitchen utensils?

So context: My husband has a group of friends who are together since school.

I moved to his country for work/study and come from a different culture.

We welcomed our lovely baby girl, and are lucky to be in a country where parents can take a good amount of off time.

We decided to spend 2 months on my country, so my mum could bond with the baby, since she couldn’t be here when my first was born (Covid).

They made a mistake trusting their friends.

Coincidentally, a couple we know was returning from a trip around the world, and needed to rent an apartment.

It was a perfect match, they cover our rent and we can be relaxed since they can look after our apartment and car.

Well, once we returned I noticed our kitchen was almost EMPTY.

I mean baking utensils, forks, knives, pans, cooking ingredients, casseroles, even utensils my mom brought from my home country for special meals were GONE.

It really is crazy that someone would throw away someone else’s belongings!

I was furious.

I still cannot believe how someone can do such a thing.

She replaced one of two frying pans and that was it.

We still have a few pans, but speciality itens to cook and bake different things are gone

The friend made a lame excuse.

My husband allegedly talked to the friend, let’s call her Sarah.

Sarah acted like she did a favour.

Once she realised we were not happy, she argued she only those she could not make clean “ENOUGH” were thrown away.

I say allegedly because my husband tends to minimise/diminish the issue to not cause waves.

Now, she’s arguing with her husband about what to do.

I demanded she replaces every single thing.

My husband is begging me to let it go, not to lose a long friendship.

I feel like I am in crazy town, I mean WHO DOES IT? Specially without talking to the owners of the house? If you don’t know what something is for WHY THROW IT AWAY???

I cannot wrap my head around it! Am I the AH and she was just doing a favour, or am I being gasslit to high heaven?

I wouldn’t want to be friends with someone who threw everything in my kitchen away! They did this friend a favor, and she repays them by throwing away their stuff! It’s crazy!

Let’s see how Reddit responded.

This person thinks Sarah is lying.

Another person doesn’t think the items were really thrown away.

This person calls out her husband for being wrong.

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Another person suggests calling the police.

Whether she threw the items away or kept them, either way, it seems like stealing.

Friends don’t throw about things that belong to their friends. Friends also don’t steal from their friends.

Her husband is wrong. The friendship is not worth saving. They made a mistake by trusting these friends. Now, they need to get their stuff back or at least get Sarah to replace it.