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Some apologies arrive years late and completely empty.

These parents funded three sons while forbidding their daughter from attending college.

She went anyway.

Now they want reconciliation before meeting her first child.

Her forgiveness comes with tuition attached.

AITA – Telling my parents to pay me back my college tuition if they want a relationship

I was raised by parents who believed, religiously and culturally, in rigid gender roles.

Dad should work, and mom should stay home with the kids.

I’m the only girl and have three brothers.

Their expectation was that I’d stay home with kids. They never valued my education, educational achievements, or emphasized things beyond domestic skills.

This woman’s brothers were sent and supported by their parents to go to college.

I’m the second youngest.

By the time I was in high school, my two older brothers had gone to the college of their choice, with my parents fully covering tuition, books, an off-campus apartment, and other living expenses.

They eventually did the same for my younger brother.

But she wasn’t allowed, so she secretly applied on her own.

I was told I wasn’t allowed to apply for college.

I applied in secret and got accepted with a partial scholarship.

I didn’t tell them I was moving out until a week before I left with essentially nothing but what a few friends gave to me that their parents bought “them” for college.

I took engineering and had to work, take on debt, and struggle.

She now has a family and is expecting their first child.

My parents and I have barely spoken for years.

I’m married now and expecting our first child, and they asked to meet up.

We met at a park, and they said they were “sorry if they caused me pain,” but they would like a relationship now.

She told her parents to pay her back the amount she spent on college.

I asked them specifically what they were sorry for.

They wouldn’t elaborate and just said they wanted to move forward.

I said that wasn’t sufficient.

In the end, I said they could prove they were sorry by forwarding me $100k which was for my degree and college expenses, just like they did for my brothers.

Now, her brothers are calling her immature.

My mom burst into tears.

My dad said I wasn’t being serious, and I just left.

Since then, I’ve been getting calls from my brothers telling me I’m being immature and hurtful.

I don’t think so at all.

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She pointed out how unfairly her parents treated her, and they didn’t like it. Of course her brothers don’t understand. Their parents paid for their education.

Let’s check out the comments of other people on Reddit to this story.

The 100k ask is fair, says this person.

This user gives their honest opinion.

This person shares their personal thoughts.

Here’s a valid point from this person.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a woman whose family says she’s selfish for not wanting strangers living in her trailer.

Finally, this person thinks they deserve it.

This woman built an engineering career alone after her parents denied her the education they freely gave her brothers.

The $100,000 demand exposed that they wanted access to her family without naming, repairing, or even acknowledging their discrimination.

Their apology failed the prerequisites.

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Chris Allen