No parent is perfect, but some parents mess up more than others. Do you know how to know if you really, truly messed up as a parent? If your kid never wants to see you again.

In this story, one young man has a very strained relationship with his dad. Actually, that’s being generous. He has a broken relationship with his dad.

He tries to avoid seeing his dad, which isn’t too hard since his parents are divorced.

But his dad wants to try to rebuild their relationship. Is it wrong to continue to push his dad away?

Let’s read the whole story to decide.

AITA for not wanting to spend time with my dad?

My (19M) dad and I have always had a tumultuous relationship…

Hes constantly treated me like garbage especially after he found out I was gay.

I used to love playing sports baseball, football, wrestling etc. ,but my dad placed so much pressure on me about it that by the time I was 15 I had developed an anxiety disorder and bulimia.

He hasn’t seen his dad much recently.

My mom finally put him out and divorced him after I had to get committed my sophomore year because of a breakdown.

A year later he got some other women pregnant and they got married and supposedly he’s been in therapy to better himself for the last few years.

We’ve only had minimal contact since I was 16 and I’ve tried to be in my baby brother’s life as much as I can be without having to see my dad.

His dad wants to reconnect.

Recently my dad has been wanting me to spend time with him and that he was sorry for the way he treated me growing up.

I’ve repeatedly told him no.

He asked again Saturday while I was over visiting my brother.

And I yelled at him that it still hurts to be around and that I’d be happy never seeing him again..

He’s not sure what to do.

I could see how hurt he was by that so I left.

I got a call from my step mom saying that my dad is trying and that maybe I should give him a chance.

And I told her I’d think about it, but I didn’t know.. AITA?

His dad hurt him emotionally. It’s hard to get over that. Maybe they both need therapy before trying to rebuild a broken relationship.

Let’s see what Reddit suggests.

This person understands where they’re both coming from.

Another person is on OP’s side.

Here’s a suggestion to talk about it in therapy.

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Giving his dad another change might not help anything.

If he’s not in therapy, he should be. He should talk to his therapist about this situation. Perhaps he should only agree to give his dad another chance if his. dad goes to therapy.

Some people can change, but I can understand why he’s hesitant to start over.