Are birthday parties for the one celebrated or for the guests? You be the judge.

This Redditor and their mother have differing opinion on the matter — and it all comes down to chocolate cake.

See the story below to find out more.

AITA for wanting chocolate cake for my birthday every year?

This is very stupid, and I considered not posting this at all. But it honestly has been a point of contention between me and my mom for years now.

So, I really like chocolate cake. Every year, I request it for my birthday, and every year I have to fight my mom on that.

My mom believes that in general people don’t like/prefer not to eat chocolate birthday cake. So for this reason, my birthday cake mustn’t be chocolate.

But, the mother believes the birthday party is for the guests.

Her argument is that birthday celebrations are about the guests as much as the birthday person and that I won’t be the only one eating the cake.

Mine is that the guests that don’t like chocolate cake can deal with it a singular day of the year, and I should be able to get the cake flavor I want for my birthday.

Some important info:

The mother is the one paying for the cake — which may be why she’s so set in her ways.

She is the one who pays for the cakes as I got no job.

I imagine that once I have my own money, the flavor of my birthday cake will be a little less of a problem (although, even then she will still be dissatisfied, I’m sure).

Most years I DO get a chocolate cake, but never without struggle.

But, the OP just doesn’t really care about any other flavor.

I will eat non-chocolate cake, but I don’t feel any desire for it. Chocolate is the only cake flavor I truly enjoy.

In my country, the usual flavor of birthday cake is what we call “flour cake” or “white cake”. t

That is, a butter-based cake with no flavoring (no vanilla, almond extract, etc). I’m the only person I know who has a chocolate birthday cake often or even at all.

And, while their taste is unusual for their country — it’s just what they want.

It is a noticeable contrast, and my mom’s belief that most people prefer non-chocolate birthday cake is not unfounded.

My birthdays are always very small, just a dinner or lunch with no more than 8 people most of the time. There will only be 2 or 3 people that I know don’t really like chocolate cake (including my mom herself).

I have written “chocolate” 11 times and “cake” 19 times in this post.

Thanks for your opinions in advance! Perhaps you guys can also help me understand my mom’s perspective…

So, is the OP being rude for pushing the chocolate cake on their birthday? Let’s read the comments below to see what Reddit thinks on the matter.

People said “NTA” on the matter.

And they outed the OP’s mom as not liking chocolate cake.

They even recommended getting a second cake.

It’s their day! Let them eat what they want!

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