It is great when parents can help their kids with school tuition or other things, but kids aren’t entitled to it in all situations.

What would you do if your mom asked you to help pay for your brother’s school tuition, but when you refused, she said that she would just pay for it using a wedding fund that she had set aside for you?

That is what happened to the woman in this story, so even though she didn’t know the wedding fund existed, she got upset that it is now going to be used for her brother.

Personally, I can see why she is upset. I don’t understand why their mom would even tell her about the wedding fund if she was going to use it for school. Read through the full story below and see what you think.

AITA My parents are forcing me to pay for my brothers grad school using money they never told me about

I’ve (30F) been financially independent since graduating college.

She is doing very well for herself.

I worked practically full-time while studying, recently paid off my student loans on my own, and just started saving to buy a home.

I didn’t apply to grad school because I couldn’t afford it, and my parents made it pretty clear growing up that we needed to stand on our own after high school.

Her brother is doing really well.

My brother (22M) is honestly a genius. He worked really hard in school, got a full academic ride to a great state school, and graduated with honors.

I’m so, so proud of him. The problem now is he recently got into an extremely prestigious grad program that would open a lot of doors for him.

Why would they expect her to pay for it?

He was hoping for scholarships or a paid internship to cover most of it, but it’s not enough. Now he’s facing tuition and housing costs in one of the most expensive cities in the country.

My parents asked if I could help out and suggested I contribute around $15,000 to get him through the first year.

She doesn’t even really have the money to help at this point in her life.

They’d match it, and he’d take loans for the rest. I said no. I’ve been working for over a decade on my own goals, and I’m just now starting to save for a house.

I don’t feel comfortable putting that on hold, especially when I had to turn down opportunities because there was no help available to me.

Technically speaking, this money is still her parents.

During the conversation, my mom got frustrated and said they’d be using my “other fund” to help him instead. I asked what she meant, and she said they had set aside about $25,000 for me back when I was in college, meant to be used for a future wedding.

I was completely blindsided. I had no idea this fund existed. I asked why I wasn’t told about it when I was considering grad school, or now while I’m saving for a home.

Mom shouldn’t have even told her about that money.

She said it was always intended for a wedding, not school or property, and since I haven’t needed it (I’m not engaged or in a relationship), they decided to give it to my brother because he has a more immediate need.

I’m not going to lie, I was mad. I never got a chance to make a case for how I could’ve used that money, and now it’s just being handed over to someone else.

It is not surprising that she would feel upset about this.

I told them I felt hurt and left out. My mom said I was being unfair, and that the money was never promised, and if I didn’t want it for a wedding, then it made sense to use it for something meaningful.

My brother told me he didn’t know about the wedding fund either, and he understands why I’d be upset, but said he didn’t ask for it.

The brother certainly did nothing wrong.

He just wants to go to school and thought we were all trying to support each other.

I know my brother worked hard and isn’t trying to take anything from me. But I can’t help feeling like my parents are punishing me for being practical.

AITA?

Why don’t the parents dip into this fund now and replenish the money before their daughter gets married? When it comes down to it, however, the money is theirs to use as they want.

Read on to see what the people in the comments have to say about this situation.

Yeah, mom was really out of line here.

This commenter doesn’t even think there is a wedding fund.

Mom only said this to hurt her.

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Here is someone who says the parents are sexist.

This person says that the parents treat their son as the golden child.

Mom was really out of line here, even if that money was still hers to do with what she wants. The only reason she even told the daughter about the money was to make her upset.

At the end of the day, the money was hers to do with what what wanted, though.