One of my many philosophies in life is that if you’re going to be a guest at someone’s house, always be sure to be on your best behavior and stay the hell out of the way of the people who are nice enough to let you stay there.

Sounds easy, right?

Well, I guess some people just didn’t get the memo…

See if you think this woman is wrong for how she treated a houseguest who is breaking all the rules.

AITA for locking the door to my home so my husband’s friend couldn’t come in?

“My husband’s friend has been living with us for about 6 months now. When my husband presented the idea to me about him moving in, I was hesitant but he was determined to get him “out of the streets”.

Fast forward to preset day… his friend got a part time job at fed ex and quit a couple of weeks ago because he didn’t “like how his supervisor was talking to him”. He does not contribute anything to our home, doesn’t help cook, clean, or watch our children. (Our oldest girl keeps an eye out on our toddler more than he does). He’ll go in our office and spark up some weed no matter how many times I tell him and my husband, that he needs to do that outdoors.

Yesterday I hit my breaking point. I wasn’t feeling well as I had a migraine. 3 of our kids had dentist appointments. I don’t know about you guys but getting kids out the door can be challenging regardless, let alone when you’re feeling sick from your head pounding nonstop.

I go outside with our kids to see that my car was gone. He took my car to go smoke with his co worker. My husband was at work. Furious wasn’t the word to describe it. I immediately went back inside and tried to call him. No answer. I then called my husband where he “sighed” like he was so annoyed with me and said he would call him.

I tried explaining to my husband that I’m at my wits end. We have 6 kids and I get no help from him or his friend. He sleeps on our couch and doesn’t even fold his blanket up in the morning. My husband proceeds to tell me that I’m overreacting and that I need to calm down.

I ended up locking my front door and refused to open it until my husband got home. However when he got home, he didn’t try to come inside. He took a picture of our door, went on Instagram, and told the world “have you ever been locked out of your own home”? I lost it

I feel like I’ve been more than patient and I can’t do it anymore. I don’t get help or basic respect in my own home and I’m constantly gaslit. My husband has a history of getting extremely angry and scary so I told him he needed to wait until our children were asleep in bed before coming in as I was afraid he’d come in irate, lashing out in front of them like before.

Aita for how I handled this?”

Here’s what Reddit users had to say about this.

One reader said this woman needs to get help and that she should be concerned for her future.

And this Reddit user agreed and said her husband is enabling his friend.

Another person said her husband cares more about his friend than he does about his own family.