November 13, 2023 at 3:21 pm

‘I do what I am supposed to do as a father.’ Man Says He Doesn’t Help His Wife Cook, Clean, Or Take Care Of Their Kids

by Matthew Gilligan

Source: TikTok/@minton__jr

This video is going to put some big smiles on a lot of faces out there…because it takes an unexpected twist and it went viral for a good reason!

It comes to us from a man named J.R. Minton, who is married and has four children with his wife.

He started his video by saying, “I don’t help my wife cook, I don’t help my wife take care of the kids, clean, laundry — none of that.”

Source: TikTok/@minton__jr

And then the twist! J.R. said, “Because I do what I am supposed to do as a father and a husband. I cook. I clean. I do the laundry. I take care of the kids. I can’t HELP my wife do those things because they are my job, too. Change the way you speak, change the way you think, and grow the **** up and be a man.”

J.R. continued, “The quickest way to change your mindset is to change your ‘word set.’ Our speech is a direct reflection of the way we think and feel, it shows in the way our speech affects other people and ourselves. Saying that I ‘help my wife with the kids’ perpetuates the idea that she has the responsibility to our children and I am merely assisting. We have a partnership; I care for my kids, and I don’t help.”

Source: TikTok/@minton__jr

In an interview with Buzzfeed, J.R. said he started making videos because of other videos he’d seen.

He said, “I often found myself disagreeing with all the answers that people would provide. So, instead of just answering the question with my own opinion, I started looking at the question. If there are 100 different answers that can all be labeled as wrong, maybe the question is wrong. That’s been my whole goal —find better questions to ask.”

Source: TikTok/@minton__jr

Here’s what he had to say.


♬ original sound – J.R. Minton

And here’s how people reacted.

One person was thrown for a loop.

Source: TikTok/@minton__jr

Another TikTokker said this guy is setting a good example.

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And one viewer also sounds like she’s doing a great job with her kids.

Source: TikTok/@minton__jr

This guy is doing it the right way!

Let’s tip out hats to him!