She Made Everyone Homemade Food Except For Her Brother’s Stepdaughter. – ‘I thought the “take out” solution was fine.’
by Matthew Gilligan
The title of this article from Reddit’s “Am I the *******?” page is a bit misleading…
Because the way it’s written makes you immediately think that this woman was purposely being a jerk to someone…but there’s more to the story!
Read on to see what she had to say and see if you think she was out of line.
AITA for making homemade food for everyone except my brother’s stepdaughter?
“I (27F) am not a professional chef, but I have taken a bunch of cooking classes and love making elaborate meals for friends and family.
There’s a new family member who has a lot of dietary restrictions.
About two years ago my brother, Greg (25M) married Cheryl (34F). Cheryl has a daughter from a previous relationship (Becca, 9F) who has several health conditions, including celiac and a severe dairy allergy that requires her to carry an epi-pen.
Last weekend I hosted a dinner at my house for my parents’ wedding anniversary. I made a fancy five-course dinner and in addition to my parents, I invited four close family friends, Greg, Cheryl and Becca, and my sister, her boyfriend and their twins (both 8M).
She tried to accommodate her.
Because of Becca’s food restrictions, I found a restaurant in town that specializes in gluten-free, dairy-free (as well as other allergen-free) food, and arranged for them to make a full meal for Becca that I could pick up in advance of the party.
But she didn’t want to prepare the food herself.
I have made a variety of speciality meals in the past (for example, keto meals when my friend was following that diet) and I like the challenge, but knowing how serious Becca’s restrictions were, I didn’t trust myself to make her meal.
I have ADHD and get easily distracted, and if I even used the wrong spoon or didn’t completely wash some flour off a bowl, it could make her incredibly sick.
Someone wasn’t happy about this…
I thought the “take out” solution was fine, but when I served the food, I saw Cheryl looking at Becca’s plate with a stony face.
For her part, Becca started eating and seemed fine.
Cheryl whispered to Greg, and Greg asked if he could talk to me in the kitchen.
When we got there he said that it was “unbelievable” that I couldn’t be bothered to make something for Becca, that they’d been bragging about what a great cook I am to her, and that he knew I’d made keto, vegan, and other complicated kinds of food in the past; now she would feel left out because she didn’t get to eat what the rest of the family was eating.
And it just got worse…
He said that it was obvious that I didn’t care about making his stepdaughter feel like a part of the family, and that they were leaving.
Greg, Cheryl and Becca then left, which put a damper on the rest of the party.
I felt like I did my best at the time, but in hindsight, I wonder if I should have tried harder to make Becca feel included since she is a relatively new addition to our family.
Now it’s time to see what people said.
This person feels for her and said she was very thoughtful.
Another individual agreed and said she’s NTA.
This Reddit user said these folks were totally out of line.
Another reader said she was only trying to be safe.
And one Reddit user thought the parents actually should have been happy about what she did.
Family drama caused by FOOD.
Yes, people, it happens!