May 29, 2024 at 7:33 pm

Child-Free Woman Opted Out Of A Girl’s Weekend Because Of Too Much “Kid Talk,” And Now They’re Calling Her A Bad Friend

by Ashley Ashbee

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It’s great to catch up with your friends, but it can be upsetting if you can’t relate to the conversation.

Even worse, when they can’t relate to your life either.

The woman in this story didn’t want to feel alienated anymore.

Read about why her efforts to step away offended some people in her group.

AITA for being truthful with my friends, when telling them I won’t go on a weekend away because I don’t want to talk about marriage / babies for three days?

I (27F), have a group of female friends (8 of us), we have been friends for over a decade, since school.

We meet up a couple of times a year for a weekend in an Airbnb.

This used to be a weekend of good food, drinks, hot tub etc.

But life experience has changed the dynamic and she feels alienated.

Around 5 of my friends are either married or in very long term relationships, of these 5 two either have a baby or are pregnant.

I will be seeing all of my friends this year for various wedding / friend / baby events.

I have been invited on this years girls trip, I have said I can’t come. I didn’t originally provide a reason.

When queried, in person by my friend, who is pregnant – I told her the truth.

I am not going because it’s a massive financial expense, for three days where we only talk about people’s upcoming engagements / weddings / babies.

I have a lot going on, but I feel a lot of my friends do not show an interest unless I talk about someone I’m dating.

It’s also a really expensive way to feel bad about myself.

Life paths often diverge from those we love and some are more interested in taking separate paths than others.

I made clear when telling my friend this, that I am thrilled for them all living the lives they want, but maybe it’s not the weekend for me at the moment.

My friend has since told me she’s really hurt I am not excited for her, or our other friends.

I responded saying, I was, but I just didn’t think the trip was for me.

AITA for being truthful with the reason why I can’t go?

Let’s see what the commenters had to say.

I deeply related to this comment. It hurts when friends don’t reciprocate because they don’t relate to your life.

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This person might agree that a lot of people seem to go out of their way to misunderstand.

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It’s not healthy if your whole identity is being a mom and you can’t talk about anything else.

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There are so many other things to talk about!

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This person felt she could have shared her thoughts in a softer way.

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Now go find new friends who “get” you and have tacos with them.

Because everyone can relate to loving tacos.