In today’s story, a mom decides to find out what’s wrong with her daughter no matter how much the medical tests cost.

Then she asks her ex to help pay the bill, and she doesn’t like his answer.

Let’s see how the story plays out…

AITA for asking my ex husband to help pay for our daughter’s medical testing?

I got divorced about 6 years ago with three kids, at the time 12, 12 & 14.

My divorce decree stated we were to split “children’s medical expenses 60/40.”

Unfortunately it did not have an age expiry date or specific language about what was included.

Our daughter (F20) has always had vague and persistent health issues; headaches, fatigue, nausea, prone to illness, etc.

Over the years I have taken her to lots of doctors and specialists and we have not found anything definitively wrong.

Her father has always blamed her eating habits and lack of exercise and has never agreed that there could be anything physically wrong.

She finally found out what was wrong with her daughter.

This summer, between her sophomore and junior years in college I took it on myself to figure out what was wrong.

I found a good internal medicine doctor who believed there was a problem and sent her off to specialists to get to the bottom of it.

Through months of scans and blood tests she was diagnosed with Hashimoto’s Disease and Endometriosis.

She asked her ex to help pay the medical bills.

The Internist impressed upon us that we had found it so early that there is little to no damage on her ovaries or thyroid, which was great news.

The testing was fairly expensive, and I paid all of the co-pays on my credit card.

I asked my ex to pay for part of them, since they were for our daughter’s health.

Her ex explained why he is unwilling to help pay the medical bills.

He refused, stating that we had just “internet fear mongered” and that she had “made herself sick by not eating properly.”

He also said he should have been consulted and involved in the process, which our daughter did not want.

AITA for not making a financial plan and discussing it with my ex husband before the testing?

I could see how the ex could feel blindsided since he didn’t know about the testing before it was done, but he also shouldn’t ignore the doctor’s diagnosis.

Let’s see how Reddit responded…

Here’s the perspective of someone with endometriosis…

This reader suggests contacting a lawyer.

Here’s another vote for talking to a lawyer.

This reader praises the mom for helping her daughter.

He may or may not legally have to pay, but at least they finally have a diagnosis.

I’m sure her daughter feels super relieved.

If you liked this post, you might want to read this story about a teacher who taught the school’s administration a lesson after they made a sick kid take a final exam.