Kids say the darndest things.

But teenagers can be just plain cruel.

In this story, a mom takes one teen’s big insult personally.

Can she get over it?

Let’s see…

AITA for banishing my teenage daughter’s friend from our house because she made fun of my weight?

I (37f) have two kids with my husband (41m); a 14-year-old daughter and a 10 year-old son.

Our daughter has always been a little socially awkward, to the point that we’ve had her tested since we suspected her of being on the spectrum.

Turns out she isn’t on the spectrum; she’s just a natural introvert.

Some people are shy. Nothing wrong with that.

However, this year in school we were thrilled when our daughter made a new friend her age since that is an area in which she struggles.

Long story short she recently invited her new friend over (with our approval) to have dinner at our house and then spend the night.

So, my daughter’s friend came over.

Making friends is hard. Meeting their families is even harder.

My husband is usually the cook in the family and this night was no exception; he made us all a really nice meal.

During the course of said meal I asked my daughter’s friend; “Are you enjoying the food?”

She responded “Yes! [Your husband] is a great cook! No wonder you’ve ended up a bigger woman.”

The room got quiet for several moments.

Yikes.

My husband tried to laugh it off and change the subject but I wasn’t having it.

The girl had just leveled a completely uncalled-for insult at me.

My daughter’s friend seemed to realize that she’d messed up but she didn’t say anything else.

We finished an awkward dinner in mostly silence and my daughter’s friend did stay the night.

This was a couple of months ago.

The friend stuck her foot in her mouth and it left a bad taste.

Recently my daughter asked if she could have her friend back over and I told her “Sure; if she’s going to apologize to me.”

When our daughter asked what I meant I reminded her of what her friend had said.

My daughter responded that it was over and she didn’t want to bring it up again.

She then went to her father and asked. He said “sure” but she then told him what I’d said.

He came to me and said: “[Daughter’s friend] just felt awkward and tried to make a joke. It didn’t land. For the sake of our daughter can’t you just let it go?”

Uh-oh, husband and wife disagree on how to parent this situation.

Yes, I could, but the thing is that I just want an apology from the girl.

I need to see that she understands how rude she was before I can get on board with her and my daughter hanging out.

My husband says that I am being weird for insisting on an apology from a 14 year-old, especially since that girl is such a good friend of our daughter.

Is it too late for the friend say sorry?

I think it’s weird that I’m still waiting for an apology from that same girl.

Seriously. That’s all I need.

I just need to know that any friend of my daughter is willing to own up to her screw ups.

What do you think? Unreasonable mom or rude bestie?

Let’s see what Reddit thinks.

This person says the grown-up should act like one.

This person says teenagers are dumb, get over it.

Another user agrees: the adult should be the bigger person (no pun intended).

This person says, when two awkward introverts find each other, let them be.

Finally, this commenter says it IS too late to say sorry… so move on with your life.

Maybe this was a big fat insult, but sometimes you gotta be an adult and take the high road.

Especially when you know your daughter has a hard time making friends!

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