When parents get divorced, they usually live in separate homes, but one of them may continue to live in the home they lived in before they got divorced.

That’s the situation in today’s story, but it seems that the dad who moved out still thinks of the home as still being his home.

He even hangs out there with one of his friends!

His daughter can’t stand it!

Let’s see how the drama escalates…

AITA for not letting my dad’s friend inside the house?

I (F24) am a daughter to a divorced couple.

They separated when I was 3 and since then I have always lived with my mom.

I had a good relationship with my dad until I turned 14, when he started a family of his own and we rarely got to see each other.

The frequent catching up became sporadic on both sides very quickly.

She lives in the same house she lived in before her parents got divorced.

The house where I live is my mom’s house, but before the divorce it was the house where we lived as a family.

My dad is really familiar with the house and the entirety of the apartment complex.

One of the other person living in our complex is my dad’s best friend, let’s call him Paul.

They know each for 30+ years and my dad always describe him as a “family friend”.

Both me and my mom never quite liked him.

Paul sounds awfully pushy.

After my parents divorced, when my mom and I meet Paul in the communal spaces we do some polite small talks but nothing more.

We simply don’t enjoy his company, but it has happened a couple of times that for complex related things he came up into our house uninvited.

He is someone that doesn’t understand boundaries and that makes us really uncomfortable.

Last time, using a maintenance excuse, he stayed for two hours and a half, actively asking for coffee more than once and when he wanted something more to drink he just went straight to the fridge without asking.

Trust me, I am a really welcoming person, but the way he acts and his soft entitlement really rubs me the wrong way.

Her dad started dropping by more often.

Back to my dad.

He just got a new job that makes him drive by my house, so it became a spontaneous habit for him to come by once every week.

I was really excited at first but it became pretty apparent from the start that it was not going to be what I expected.

It sounds like dad and Paul are a package deal!

Three times out of the average four monthly visits he hangs out with Paul in my living room.

Most of the time when I call to check when he will arrive, he is at Paul’s and they just come at my door and stay both for a couple of hours, take a coffee or two before vanishing.

Last week when I asked my dad to come watch a movie it was no different.

He called me, told me that he was at Paul’s and simply added “We’re coming in a minute”.

She told her dad that Paul isn’t invited.

I just snapped.

I told him that I wanted only him to come by and that I didn’t want Paul in the house.

He asked me why and I explained that I just didn’t want Paul there.

He exploded.

He told me that I was extremely rude for not inviting him.

He kept saying “Since when Paul cannot come to OUR house?”.

Her dad chose Paul over her.

I just responded that technically that was not his house and that if he really wanted to spend some time with Paul they could have went elsewhere.

He hung up on me and never showed up.

I wasn’t expecting that reaction from him and I felt extremely betrayed because I thought our hanging time was more important than Paul.

Her mom is on her side.

When later I told my mom what happened she said that I did the right thing and that my dad is known to be dismissive and extremely angry when he doesn’t get what he wants.

I still feel bad.

Maybe I could have overlooked Paul’s presence but idk.

AITA?

Her dad sounds just as bad as Paul!

It’s too bad he doesn’t understand that his daughter just wants to spend time with him.

Let’s see how Reddit reacted…

She could just read this to her dad…

Another reader calls Paul a “leech.”

This is a good question about Paul…

If her dad doesn’t pay rent, it’s not his house.

This reader thinks Paul is “creepy.”

Lock the doors, change the locks and meet Dad somewhere else!

End of story.

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