A well-intentioned boyfriend thinks he’s giving his girlfriend the ultimate gift—freedom from debt.

Instead, she’s furious, feeling like he took something important away from her.

Now, he’s left questioning if he made a huge mistake.

Check out the details and decide where you lie.

AITA for secretly paying off my girlfriends debt?

Recently I’m having a big fallout with my girlfriend of four years and I don’t understand why she’s angry.

I have this amazing girlfriend we’ll call Amy.

She’s the best girl you’ll ever meet she’s kind, understanding, and makes the best omelette in the world.

She’s very poor though has always been she was raised by a single mother and they struggled all her childhood.

I come from the opposite type of style I know I’m very privileged but me and her have been friends for years after a chance meeting.

Opposites attract, right?

She has always been a great girlfriend and we don’t argue often but when we do it’s about money not as you would think she just doesn’t like when I spend money on her and I can’t understand it.

I would gift her nice jewelry and she always seemed to dislike it.

Me being love struck upgraded and I brought her a new car we got in a big argument that time and she told me she didn’t want me to waste money on her she’d rather me spend that type of money on something important but she is important and I want to spoil her.

I learned that she appreciated things more if they were directly given to her.

If I bought myself a necklace and didn’t like it she would accept it so I started buying her things pretending they were for me and I didn’t want them she would accept and things were going good.

Money doesn’t buy (your girlfriend’s) happiness…

I want to propose soon but she wants to pay off her debts first so we have a clean slate to start on.

I’ve known this since the beginning she works hard to pay them she doesn’t pay rent or any utilities in my house I don’t let her even if she tries.

Last week with the help of her mother I paid off her student loans I thought it would be a nice gift to her considering it was her birthday but once everyone left she blew up on me like never before.

I’ve never seen her so angry she told me I crossed a line that she was working hard to pay it off and I ruined that and I was a jerk for involving her mom in my schemes.

Ooooof.

What she really said that stuck with me was, “You can’t understand why I’m angry because you’ve never had to struggle and you’ve never felt the pride of finally doing something yourself.”

And even then I didn’t understand she ended up leaving and she’s at her mom’s house.

I can’t understand why I’m losing her I can’t I pay the debt but I don’t want to lose her.

I just want her to live in comfort and I want to marry her.

Now that a few days have passed I’m getting anxious and I’m starting to feel like a real jerk for invading her privacy.

Our whole house is decorated to her taste and it smells like her but she’s not here each time I realize that I feel more and more stupid.

Well that’s depressing.

I’ve never felt like such a jerk before even if I don’t think I did anything wrong.

So AITA for paying off my girlfriend’s debt without consulting her?

What was meant to be an act of love turned into a breaking point, proving that sometimes generosity isn’t about the money—it’s about respect.

Reddit thinks he is the AH, albeit a well-intentioned one…but an AH.

He never really listened to her.

And yes, he wants to do right by her…but put your listening ears on, sir.

Turns out, paying off debt can be priceless…but not always in a good way.

You have to listen to what people actually want instead of giving them what sounds good to you.

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