March 19, 2025 at 3:23 pm

Man Told His Family They Could Use His Pool, So His Family Planned A Pool Party Without Asking Him First

by Ashley Ashbee

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Sometimes we give permission to be polite or because we don’t know what we’re getting ourselves into.

That would be an understatement for this guy. He gave his family permission to use his pool, but he had no idea they would abuse this privilege.

See why you should always have clear terms for any offer.

My brother is hosting a pool party at my house today and I found out from my mother last night

I’m sitting in my office right now, trying to work (I work remotely), and I can hear my family in the backyard, having a pool party.

A pool party that has been in planning for a week.

A pool party I did not know about until last night.

I have a large house with an in-ground pool and I’ve always told my family they can come over, but to let me know ahead of time.

He’s going to regret the offer…

This year, no one has used the pool so I haven’t done a lot of upkeep on it. I have a salt system so it stays fairly balanced on its own. But I’ve been really busy with work, so I haven’t used it myself.

Last night, I was talking to my mother, and she said “Well, I will see you tomorrow.”

I asked what she meant by that and she said for the pool party.

After digging, I found out that my brother was planning on coming over the following day to use my pool. He was bringing his daughters and had coordinated with my sister to have her kids come over as well.

Since my sister and her husband work during the day, my parents would be bringing them by.

His sister assumed he knew.

I asked how long this had been in planning and my mom said for a least a few days now and they were just figuring out which day was best.

My sister (my parents live with her) overheard the conversation and texted me to verify I knew about all of this and was surprised to find out I did not know.

She texted our brother subtly asking if he had coordinated all of this with me.

But the invite list isn’t done yet.

Five minutes later, I get a text from my brother saying he planned to come swimming the next day with one of his daughters but he would be very quiet since they know I work at home.

So around 11:30 am, my brother shows up with his oldest daughter.

I said hello but went back to work.

That is when he mentioned the extra people would be there.

He thinks his brother should’ve asked him if it was okay first.

At first, I didn’t care that much since everyone was family and they had seen my house messy before.

Then he mentions his daughter’s boyfriend is coming too. He said “Well, she asked if he could come so I said yes.”

I love my family but they really drive me nuts sometimes.

It is not usually a big deal if my family comes over. But the fact that my brother coordinated things with other people and never thought to ask me if it was okay is just infuriating.

And then to invite complete strangers as well!

Seriously, all his brother had to do was ask him instead of tell him. There’s a big difference.

Here is what folks are saying on Reddit.

Easy solution.