A woman noticed a sudden change in her husband’s behavior after he returned from a work trip—his phone, once an afterthought, became practically glued to his hand.

But when a cryptic message from a female colleague popped up on his screen, she couldn’t ignore the red flags.

Now, after confronting him and facing nothing but defensiveness, she’s left wondering if she overstepped or if her instincts were spot on.

Check it out.

AITA for confronting my husband after finding a suspicious message from a colleague on his phone?

So, I (F) need some advice because I’m honestly just so confused and hurt right now, and I’m not sure if I’m overreacting or if my instincts are actually onto something.

A couple of weeks ago, my husband (M) went on a work trip with a few colleagues, including a woman named Rachel.

Before the trip, he was always pretty laid back he’d come home, throw his phone on the kitchen table, and not really bother with it much.

But since he came back from that trip, he’s been acting different.

He’s more secretive, constantly has his phone on him, and checks it a lot, even when we’re hanging out together.

Before, he never even cared about his phone when he was home.

Suspicious much?

I thought maybe he was just stressed from the trip, or maybe something work-related had him more preoccupied.

But then yesterday, I was sitting in the kitchen, and I saw a message pop up on his phone when he left it on the kitchen table to take out the trash.

It was from Rachel, and it said, “Did you tell your wife?”

I froze.

When he came back inside, I couldn’t keep it in, so I confronted him.

I just asked, “What was that message about? From Rachel?” and immediately he got super defensive.

He started yelling at me for going through his phone and said it was none of my business.

I tried to explain that I wasn’t going through i just saw the message popping up and that i did not want to invade his privacy, but that he’d been acting so different since the trip, and I was honestly just worried.

But instead of hearing me out, he accused me of being paranoid and that it was all “nothing,” just work stuff, and that I was blowing things out of proportion.

Sure doesn’t seem that way.

I kept asking him if there was something going on, and he just got angrier and angrier, saying I didn’t trust him.

And then, he stormed off and went straight to bed without saying a word.

Like, he wouldn’t even talk to me after that.

Now I’m sitting here, feeling like I’m losing my mind.

I don’t know if I should’ve just let it go, but it really feels like something’s going on.

But now I’m questioning if I’ve done something wrong or if I just need to trust him.

So, AITA for confronting him about it, or am I being way too paranoid and overstepping?

Her husband’s reaction only fueled her suspicions, yet she’s being made to feel like the bad guy for even asking.

Now, she’s stuck questioning whether she should let it go or trust her gut that something isn’t adding up.

Reddit says she HAS to get to the bottom of this…

This person suggests calling the only other person who has the inside scoop.

This person says something DEFINITELY happened and she needs to get to the bottom of it ASAP.

And this person has some jokes (but also votes NTA).

We don’t know what happened, but…

Nothing says “totally innocent” like dodging questions and storming off to bed.

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