I get it…

When a couple has a new baby (or babies), friends and family members want to come over and celebrate.

But new parents need some space…and sleep!

These new parents don’t want anyone to visit unannounced, and when the grandparents showed up without notice when everyone was sleeping, it created a lot of drama.

Get all the details below and see what you think.

AITA for turning away my partner’s grandparents when they showed up unannounced?

“My partner and I had twins in February.

We’re currently living in her parents’ neighboring house because they acquired it after the neighbor passed away, and we’re renting/renovating it with them.

There are some ground rules…

We have set clear boundaries that we don’t want surprise visitors, and we would like it if they only came over once or twice a week so we can have some privacy.

Today, my partner’s dad texted her while she was trying to nap, letting her know that her grandmother (his mother) had shown up at their house unannounced.

We appreciated the heads-up, and she continued with trying to rest, as the twins were finally fed, changed, and no longer being fussy.

About 10-15 minutes later, her phone starts ringing, and I see it’s her dad.

Stop right there!

I answered, and he let me know her grandma and grandpa were walking over.

I told him I would turn them away, as everyone was finally sleeping and it wasn’t a good time.

He said “You shouldn’t do that, because it will start a fight.”

I said “Oh well, it’s not a good time.”

He sounds like a great husband to take care of the situation for his wife.

Her grandparents rang the doorbell twice during that phone call, almost back to back, waking her and one of the boys up.

I told her to just keep sleeping, I’ll deal with it.

I answered the door, and her grandma could tell I was exhausted, because she asked if we were sleeping.

I said “Yes, we all are.”

She didn’t care.

She said “Too bad,” and tried stepping towards the door.

I pulled it shut a little more so it was barely open enough for me, and told her “No. It’s not a good time. They haven’t been sleeping good, and I don’t want them waking up since they’re finally asleep.”

She pretended she was ok with it, and parted ways.

A few minutes later, my partner called her dad with the boys screaming in the background, telling him we turned them away.

He did what he usually does when he’s mad, and kept giving short, one or two word replies.

These people are something else!

Then, after she was done talking, he blew up, talking about how he’s going to have to deal with her grandma being mad now, and saying something like “I might as well broadcast your rules to everyone to not show up unless they call ahead!” along with some other stuff I didn’t catch, as I was in the other room.

She started crying, said bye while he was still yelling, and hung up.

Now I feel like I shouldn’t have told her grandparents to come back another day, because her dad apparently can’t deal with his mother’s (or his own) emotions, and it would’ve been easier to just deal with them coming in and disturbing the peace that we had just managed to establish.

AITA for turning them away? Should I have just dealt with them coming in for a little while?”

This is why new parents often tape a note to the doorbell saying not to ring it because the baby is sleeping.

Let’s see what folks had to say on Reddit.

This person had a lot to say.

Another individual said they’re NTA.

This Reddit user agreed.

Another person spoke up.

And this individual chimed in.

Jeez, all these new parents wanted was some peace and quiet!

If you liked that post, check out this story about a guy who was forced to sleep on the couch at his wife’s family’s house, so he went to a hotel instead.