There’s a school of thought that says there’s no such thing as a bad divorce.

Divorces can be unpleasant – or even brutal. But if a bad relationship is ending, that’s good, right?

Trouble is – life doesn’t just move right on.

Is there such a thing as moving on to a new relationship too quickly after a divorce?

One person in this story thinks the answer is yes, but is that the correct answer?

Let’s read the whole story to decide.

AITA for telling my cousin he shouldn’t get married (yet)?

My cousin is getting a divorce.

They’ve been separated for about six months.

They have three kids.

And now you can see where we’re headed.

He’s involved with another woman – who he’s known forever.

We all know her forever, actually.

And his parents like her a lot – probably more than his current wife.

Last week they just announced their engagement.

There’s fast and then there’s instant.

Anyway, we were talking about the divorce and all, how important it is to make it easier on his kids and maintain a good relationship.

So me, being the foot in mouth person I am, said maybe you shouldn’t be getting married five seconds after your divorce.

It turned into something of a fight, with him saying he has every right to be happy and me saying – he has a responsibility to his kids as well, and no one’s saying don’t be in a relationship – just maybe take it much much slower (i.e. keep it on the DL for a while).

Right or wrong, should they have said something?

While some of the family agree with me, they all pretty much said I should have kept my mouth shut.

My aunt is particularly mad at me because she’s very much in favor of this new marriage – and now he is considering a long engagement.

So, while I definitely put my foot in my mouth – if he’s actually taking my advice (or at least considering it) – AITA?

A little breathing room between marriage isn’t a bad thing.

Let’s see what the comments say on Reddit:

Are you just sayin’ what everybody’s thinkin’?

Maybe tough love was the right approach.

Just because everyone is excited for the new relationship doesn’t mean rushing it will help.

Here’s hoping for a happily ever after.

If you liked that post, check out this story about a guy who was forced to sleep on the couch at his wife’s family’s house, so he went to a hotel instead.